lovenrod66

flash backs

Posted on 04/03/08, 10:55 am

I'm 42 years old and lost my husband to Lymphoma on 2/16/08. I was alone when I found him. I was a mess. He was my first love and were married for 1 year and 9 months. I wasn't finished loving him yet! Has anyone had horrible flashbacks at random times pop in your head if only for a second? I get these once in a while now and I wonder if I'm losing it. Also for the past month I have been gettin terrible headaches at night. Could that be stress related? Sorry for all the questions, I just need to know if what I'm feeling is ok.

• Reply #11 04/21/08  12:20am
  
  normaquin
  I also had alot of flash backs of when my husband collasped at the beginning and sometimes I still do at almost a year and a half later but I could surely say that only time is our best friend. It dose get better and easier to cope with the pain I believe that we never truly heal you just learn to overcome it. I recall the countless sleepless nights and popping pills left and right to get some sleep so its normal to get headaches never the less I think that at time we need to seek help.
• Reply #12 05/23/08  11:15pm
  
  solostmilla
  I CAN STOP THINKING ABOUT HOW MY HUSBAND PASSED AWAY. HE WAS IN A TRAGIC CAR ACCIDENT. I REALLY HATE I DID NOT GET A CHANCE TO SAY GOODBYE OR I LOVE U & SO ON. I CAN'T BELEIVE HOW THINGS WORK OUT SOMETIMES. MY LAST TIME SEEING HIM WAS ON A FRIDAY & NOW I HATE FRIDAYS. IT DOES NOT SEEM LIKE THAT WOULD HAVE BEEN HIS LAST DAY HERE.WE HAD SO MANY PLANS FOR THIS YEAR & MANY YEARS TO COME. HE WAS ONLY 38 & WE DISCUSSED GETTING OLD TOGETHER & IT FELT SO GOOD. I KEEP REWINDING THAT DAY IN MY HEAD LIKE IF ONLY I STAYED AT HOME HE WOULD NT HAVE GOTTEN BORED & LEFT THE HOUSE. I JUST WENT TO RUN SOME ERONS THOUGH SO MAYBE I SHOULD HAVE DONE SOMETHING DIFFERENT & MAYBE THIS WOULD NT HAVE HAPPENED. I AM GOING THROUGH THE GUILT PHASE. THE FLASH BACKS ARE CERTAINLY COMING ALL BACK. I NEED SOME HELP THIS IS SO HARD TO ACCEPT.
• Reply #13 05/23/08  11:16pm
  
  solostmilla
  IT WAS SUPPOSE TO SAY...I CAN NOT STOP THINKING ABOUT MY HUSBAND, SORRY.
• Reply #14 05/24/08  11:04am
  
  emptyinpa
  I have flashbacks several times a day. I found my husband on the floor- according to the paramedics he had been gone for several hours.I keep seeing his face. I wonder constantly what he was thinking before he passed, was he in pain? did he call out for me? These thoughts haunt me every day. I also now get bad headaches- it feels like terrible pressure or a stabbing in my right eye.
  It has been 15 weeks since my husband passed away and these flashbacks feelings and headaches have not gotten any better. I am sorry to hear of your loss and pain, but thank you for letting me know that I am not alone.
• Reply #15 05/28/08  9:40pm
  
  robinmara
  i lost my husband 3/20/08 we was married less than a year i knew when he met he was sick type 1 diabetic and kidney falure but that didnt matter he s full of life,i knew in my heart the dyalis center would call me when something happened and thats what happened he and i talked on the phone hung up and 15 minutes they called and said he wasnt responding so i met him at the hospital he had a stroke couldnt talk ir move his right side he was 49 well he lasted 18 hours went brain dead and i lost my love i still to this day hear the voice of them calling me i laid in the bed beside as they took life support off i held him in my arms and within 3 minutes he was gone i still feel his heart stop on my arm the flash backs seem to get worse for me not better..you are in my thoughts thanks for the headache question cause i too seem to have them latley myself i cant say whats ok but we have to go on
• Reply #16 05/30/08  7:51pm
  
  heavenboundlj
  I had flashbacks for the first 6mths - 1yr. It is quite normal. I'd see him in the shower and see him walk in the door...just for a second...This will stop as your brain gets used to him not being there. I'm thinking of you.
• Reply #17 07/16/08  4:33pm
  
  nanu04
  My Husband has been gone 2 years in sept.I dream about him all the time.All my kids and his parents were there when he died,That vision will always be in my mind.Some things has happened and my kids have to tell me.I think that your body protecting itself.Theres not a day that goes by that i dont think of him laying in that bed trying to breath.My life will never be the same.Then my dad died 5 months later.And my girlfriend died and then my cousin and another girlfriend all in one year.I too hope it will get easier as time goes by.

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