justmarried07

sex with no condom---new engagement ring??

Posted on 09/10/08, 12:45 pm

Heard about this on the radio---that the new thing for today's youth, is having sex without a condom,--no protection at all---is the same thing that an engagement ring used to be. One girl says, "it's total trust---and it's exciting what could happen---there's a chance that your life could be intertwined forever (if I get pregnant)and that's longer than an enagement ring can promise me."

I thought this was so disturbing!! Anyone else floored by this idea?

• Reply #1 09/10/08  3:39pm
  
  GeorgiaW
  I have also heard of this and find it really scarey that young people can be so nieve and willing to risk std's and pregnancy so easily. Getting knocked up out of wedlock is no guarentee there will be a happy ever after ending, millions of women over the centuaries have learned that sad fact.
• Reply #2 09/10/08  5:30pm
  
  sam23
  I think its pretty frightening that there are teens out there that compare sex with out protection to being engaged. I wonder where on earth they got this idea from. I think these teens need to be reminded that an engagement ring is a promise to get married in the near future. Sex without protection is just an easy way to get pregnant or contract STD's.
• Reply #3 09/10/08  5:47pm
  
  LynneC
  Heck, an engagement ring is no guarantee of a happy ending, Georgia. But consenting to sex just as a "promise" of marriage is too risky, and too dangerous. It seems to me that young girls are growing up with such a skewed image of what sex is, and what it should be, as well as where it should rank in importance when developing a relationship with another person.
• Reply #4 09/10/08  6:13pm
  
  GeorgiaW
  Lynne, I'm very much aware that an engagement ring is no guarentee of marrige or a happy ending either but it used to be more of a public announcement that the two had seriouos intentions toward each other.
  There are so many things wrong with how young people view relationships and sex that its' hard to figure out where to begin but suspect parental attitude has much to do with this trend and I'm fully aware that parents only have a certaim amount of influence on kids until that old peer pressure sets in but I also think far to many parents adbacate much of the power they should have to influence them.
• Reply #5 09/10/08  7:17pm
  
  LynneC
  It is impossible to be both friend AND parent, and too many parents today seem to think the friend part is the important thing. Kids have enough friends; they need guidance!
• Reply #6 09/11/08  12:48pm
  
  justmarried07
  I guess that's the girl's point. She said that marriages end, but if you have a baby with someone, they're in your life forever---it's like a guarentee that the 2 will be linked forever. I find that sickening, b/c they aren't considering the child here, which just proves immaturatey. (sp)
• Reply #7 09/11/08  12:54pm
  
  srsnde
  I don't think this is anything new; young women/teenagers have been doing this for ages. Sad thing is, the joke is on them when the guy doesn't want anything to do with them afterwards...or if they end up in a miserable marriage. I always thought it was the most despicable thing a woman could do, use a baby as a trap and weapon. It is just so wrong! Now, I am not saying the guys gets off (no pun intended), but often these girls claim to be on BC when they are not.
• Reply #8 09/11/08  2:23pm
  
  GeorgiaW
  What I find incredibly sad is not only how many of these young guys are perfectly willing and able to walk out of their childrens lives and never see them again but how many of the young women are now doing the same thing.
  There are times they remind me of cats having a litter then abandoning them once they are done with the basics, big difference is the cat usualy sticks around until the kitten can hunt on it's own and these kids are dumping their babies on parents or the system long before that ever happens.
• Reply #9 09/11/08  8:47pm
  
  LindaJean
  I think this is very disturbing given the sexually transmitted diseases that can be transferred without a condom.
  We're talking about someone' s life, their ability to have children - etc., etc. A very short sighted attitud.
• Reply #10 09/12/08  6:10pm
  
  AiresFire
  Not only is this disturbing, but deadly. Isn't Sex Ed being taught in Public Schools anymore? Are these young girls insane? I feel that Sex Ed should be taught first at home. I sat my children down at a young age, brought out several books and explained everything to them. Parents have to step up and take action. It's called "Home-Training". These schools don't care. Every child is just another paycheck. Im sure there are some dedicated teachers out there but they are far and few. Sad and Disturbing.
  Nuff Said.

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