Discussion Topic
Ready To Make A Change
Posted on 11/08/09, 10:53 am
I was told many years ago that my problem was just as you say==Loving Too Much== How was it possible to love TOO much? Well I have spent 40 years in a marriage where I did just that and now I am ready to do whatever it takes to finally find myself and get on with what makes ME happy !! I am truly a dreaming grandma because My dreams are to create a life that puts ME first and not feel guility about it!! So come on you guys help me do just that!!
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Reply #1 11/08/09 2:09pm
We can love too much when we put ourselves after others or forget ourselves completely. I applaud you for making a stand and knowing what you want. this can be done at any age. You are not just a dreamer. You are taking action and that takes a lot of courage my friend. Be gentle with yourself because you are wonderful. Find out what truly makes you happy. Try new things. I am trying new things and branching out and it feels amazing. I encourage you to do the same. Please take it slow and steady though. -
Reply #2 11/08/09 2:24pm
Thanks so very much Lisa for the encuregment ! I just wish I had come to my sences YEARS ago but as they say =better late than never !! I will admit to being very scared about this NEW way of life but it is very excieting also! Please forgive my spelling as I only finished high school and by my not being able to spell any better than I do I must have slept through spelling class !!! Good luck to you as you go on your journey and please keep me posted as to what you run into==be it good or bad ! -
Reply #3 11/08/09 6:06pm
COngrats Dreaming. YOu are so brave to do this. Good for you!!!! -
Reply #4 11/08/09 11:45pm
Dreaming, I want you to know that I find you BEYOND couragous to take this step after 40 years of marriage ... WOW ....Most people would just put their tale between their legs and tough it out, but you are determined to make these types of changes. I am very impressed. Good luck and keep us posted. Welcome to the board ... -
Reply #5 11/09/09 8:47pm
Thanks so mush for all the nice words and support! I know this is not going to be easy but even a few years feeling good about myself and being at peace in my mind is wourth all the hard work in front of me. My biggest fear is that I will finally be the woman I want to be in 3 years at the age of 60 and then my cancer will return and I won't live to have the peaceful wonderful " old age " I am dreaming of! Reguradless I think I have more than paid the price for a good future. My mother lived to 72 and my daddy is still alive at 78 so maybe I will make it also. I have to think positive no matter what! I hope everyone will keep me posted as to how you are doing.=Wanda= -
Reply #6 11/11/09 6:41pm
I LOVE your attitude! It is so empowering that you are fighting
through no matter what. I had a teacher who once said "REFUSE TO LOSE!"
I can't say I've lived by that, but now trying to get out feeling like
a victim. Your words are very inspiring. I know it's true that our
attitudes ABOUT what's happening in our lives is what really matters.
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Reply #7 11/12/09 3:06am
you attitude is great and so full of fight and life. wish i could have half of your spunk. iv spent the last 4 yr being off ballance and feeling sorry for self. pantic attacts because he was leavining after each arugument that he started etc. i still love him some but now know he never loved me im reclaming my life to the bet of my ability. i wish you journy mercys on your journy of life
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