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I don't know what to do
Posted on 10/12/09, 01:36 pm
I am 41 years old and recently let go from a high management position, my boyfriend is off his rocker so I let him go. My teenagers are typical teenagers, thinking about themselves. I've had several careers under my hat and now I don't know what to do. I have been working since the age of 17. I sit in my bed all day and I know I need to get up and do something but I don't feel like it. I want to cry but I spent the majority of my adult life protecting myself from everybody and now I'm completely numb. I don't want to stay in the field of management and not sure where to go next. I think i just need someone to talk to.
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Reply #1 10/12/09 6:49pm
Why don't you try some volunteer work for a while it can really ground you. Also be careful because it sounds like you're heading towards a deep depression so you need to get to the doc and get some advice before it grabs you completly. Also try taking a course maybe in cooking, photography, something out of the ordinary and change your thinking. Go down to your local church cafe and sit with some ladies you haven't met before and have a good old chin wag. Of course all are only suggestions it's up to you what you do. Good luck ... -
Reply #2 10/13/09 9:51pm
Hi , Ariadne. What a beautiful name you have. Well, from my own life, I can say that I agree with stillcruzn about seeing a doctor. It's not a cure, but an antidepressant will help you deal with things better. There is no shame in getting help when you need it. Also, when you look at your problems and decisions you need to make, it probably seems enormous. So, break it down. Take one itty bitty step, make one small decision.
Then another and another. Now, here is the weird part. Have you done anything for your "inner child" lately ?
I know, I know. Psychobabble. But not really. You have to nourish all of you. Do something you haven't done for a long time. Or something you've always wanted to do. Do something to make yourself laugh or refresh your joy in life. Call a friend you haven't talked to in ages, see a movie (especially if it make you laugh), go to the ice cream shoppe and splurge. Give yourself permission to enjoy life again. Meet it on your own terms, not someone elses. It's your life. Make it the best it can be.
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Reply #3 11/11/09 5:55pm
Ariadne, I can only imagine how you feel. While thinking over everything that has happened to you, try waking up your creative side. Even if you are not that crafty, try making little things out of craft foam, crochet, knit, make jewelry. Something that will take your mind off of what you are feeling. Share with family member or friends what you have created. You will be surprised how uplifting this may be. Even if you don't think it looks all that great, you will be surprised of what others may think.
I have a special needs son and 5 years ago it broke my heart to get a second confirmation that he will be placed in a group home. I had to find something to do to substitute his time away so I started doing little things and showing family and friends. They started buying it from me. This is not my fulltime job, but I do it as therapy. I have grand children and when they moved back home the other day they asked if we could do crafts on the weekend. When I did have my son home, I let him sit out back and just be creative, it helped his behavior somewhat.
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Reply #4 11/13/09 8:15pm
I think everyone has really given you the best advice - now it is up to you to follow thru - you will be surprised just how much better you can feel and how much better life can be for you. God bless you!!
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