LiliAlex

broken heart

Posted on 08/31/09, 04:50 pm

i got my heart broken for the first time on saturday. the man i love with everything i know, and who loves me too broke up with me.his name is Shuyan Han and he is Chinese. we had been planning out life together for a long time, knowing that we are ment to be. but he is chinese,and i am american. so when he went back to china this summer, his father (who is high standing in the goverment there) told him he HAD to break up with me, or else it would make him bad. for his son to have a relationship with a woman from a different country....now i am depressed, and crying all the time. he is upset too, but he feels he has to obey his fathers wishes....i am so heart broken....i dont know how to recover....i want there to be hope so badly. i want his father to change his mind more than anything in the world. i am in love with Shuyan, but i cant be with him. help

• Reply #1 08/31/09  9:04pm
  
  blooming19
  I'm so sorry you are in such pain. Being apart from the one we love hurts so much. The only thing I know of that helps is time, and keeping busy with your regular routine. When your hurting it's natural to want to isolate because you are feeling so bad, but I've found that the best thing to do is to talk to a close friend, journal about how your feeling, and cry if you need to, anything to help release the pain. I hope things work out for you and remember to take care of yourself.
• Reply #2 09/01/09  4:39pm
  
  lindahoward7
  I think you should try, just try to stay busy and in time, it can be better - hard? You bet it is hard...and a lot of us get hurt and our life seems over. Do not isolate yourself - it makes it worse...may the good Lord help you.
• Reply #3 09/22/09  2:07pm
  
  momf333
  lili,
  where did you meet him? have you met any of his family? i don't want to
  give you false hope,i just feel awful that you both have to go through
  this.that's the most important thing right now is to keep busy and let
  some time pass.i wish you both the best of luck.
• Reply #4 09/23/09  5:10pm
  
  zybasima
  I lived in China for four years and understand their culture well. In his own mind he has no choice and he will most likely do what he is told. His father and mother are typical in that they don't want a foreigner in the family. It is sad but it is the way it is. I am sorry for your pain.

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