EELC

TTC after 2 miscarriages

Posted on 06/21/09, 01:45 pm

Hi everyone --> I'm new to this group. I've been active on the miscarriage group, but will start TTC again after losing my last two pregnancies. Lost my first one at 12 weeks at Christmas, and the 2nd one at 10 weeks in April. 2nd one was genetic (Turners syndrome), first one was a mystery. I do not have any other children. I should ovulate around 4th of July, and this will be our first month of TTC again after the April D & C.

It doesn't look like this group is as active as the miscarriage group, but I figured I'd post here and see how many responses I get. Any advice on how to stay sane during the process?

• Reply #1 07/13/09  2:08pm
  
  JessG
  Sorry this response is a little late. I notice people don't respond here as often as the MC one either. I'm really sorry to hear about both of your miscarriages. I have only had one, but I understand your pain b/c I don't have any children as well. i think it's a little different for those of us who don't have any children. Not that our losses are any different, a loss of a child at any stage is always a horrible thing. But when you have been trying for a while and you have never had a successful pregnancy you really start to worry that you never will have one. For the lucky ones who have had at least one or two, they are so blessed to be able to know that they can at least have a baby. I so wish I had that kind of security. Again, not saying that their pain or frustrations are not the same or less, but it's different.
  Anyhow, somedays it's just so frustrating and then other days I try to remember to take each day at a time. We really waited awhile after the first miscarriage to start trying again b/c it was just too painful. We started trying again this January and I do feel much better about the concept of getting pregnant, however it get's frustrating going month to month, with no success. What I would do to see a positive pregnancy test result again!
  In the mean time, I try to concentrate on my time with my husband and just try to enjoy that relationship as much as possible and do things that we wouldn't be able to do as easily if we had a child. It's so easy to loose sight of your marriage/relationship in this struggle, and I think it's important to nurture it as well. I think this website does help, but you really do feel like you are loosing your mind sometimes. I can completely relate to this. Just try to stay calm and have hope that this will happen for you one way or another. That's what I try to tell myself all the time. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't.
  If you need to vent, please feel free.
  Take care and good luck to you!!!
• Reply #2 07/16/09  9:27pm
  
  EELC
  Thanks for the reply. I agree that I think there is a different element for those of us that have not had children yet. We have so much fear that we never will. But I keep telling myself that my choices are to try or to not try, and since I don't want to give up the idea of having kids, that leaves trying as the only option.
  
  I'm now waiting for either AF or a BFP. It's day 29 of my cycle, so I should find out any day now. pregnancy test was negative this morning, but no sign of AF either. This is my first month trying since the miscarriages. There's part of me that I think will be relieved if I'm not pregnant, because that means I don't have to start worrying about losing another one. But of course, I want nothing else more than to have a baby, so it's funny to have such competing wishes.
  
  thanks for the support! Good luck to you too!

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