ashley868

Never been in a relationship

Posted on 08/24/09, 07:20 am

I am going to be twenty-three in a few weeks and I have never been in a relationship. I am completely ashamed of it as well. Most people my age have been in a lot of relationships, and I haven't. When I finally do meet someone (if ever) he is going to be turned off by my lack of experience. They are going to wonder why I've never been in a relationship. The reason is because no one has ever found me attractive. I am extremely ugly. I get made fun of all the time for it. A guy I don't know, he was quite young by the sounds of it, maybe a teen, was making fun of me the other night for it. So I am scared that no one will ever find me attractive, and on the off-chance that they do, they'll be turned off by the fact that I have never been in a relationship. I am also still a virgin, and that will also be a major turn off. I am scared that I am never ever going to meet anyone.

• Reply #1 08/30/09  7:02pm
  
  ariesc8942
  Hi there Ashely868
  
  Welcome to DS…. I am first sorry that you are feeling this way. I wish that you would lift yourself up more and not down yourself. You’re a human being and deserve the best. Please don't allow or let the wrong people in your life and in general tell you otherwise. There is nothing wrong with not being in a relationship. Or not having ever been in one yet. You will soon be in one soon, once you better yourself than only you can open the doors for one. You know the saying you must love yourself before you can truly love anyone. Try loving your whole self then all the changes will come, it won’t be overnight but it will come. You just need to have hope, faith and patience. The other issue of being a virgin there’s absolutely nothing wrong with being one in fact if you’re in need of support of being one. Please come and join the Abstinence and Celibacy Group. Here’s the link to that check it out: http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Abs...
  
  I hope that helps you out. Please take pride in yourself and know that you’re not ugly and unattractive it just that guys can be heartless and airheads.
  Much hugs
  
• Reply #2 08/30/09  7:03pm
  
  ariesc8942
  please disregard the first reply with its error and read the second reply thanks which should be error free.
• Reply #3 08/30/09  7:03pm
  
  ariesc8942
  Hi there Ashely868
  Welcome to DS…. I am first sorry that you are feeling this way. I wish that you would lift yourself up more and not down yourself. You’re a human being and deserve the best. Please don't allow or let the wrong people in your life and in general tell you otherwise. There is nothing wrong with not being in a relationship. Or not having ever been in one yet. You will soon be in one soon, once you better yourself than only you can open the doors for one. You know the saying you must love yourself before you can truly love anyone. Try loving your whole self then all the changes will come, it won’t be overnight but it will come. You just need to have hope, faith and patience. The other issue of being a virgin there’s absolutely nothing wrong with being one in fact if you’re in need of support of being one. Please come and join the Abstinence and Celibacy Group. Here’s the link to that check it out: http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Abs...
  I hope that helps you out. Please take pride in yourself and know that you’re not ugly and unattractive it just that guys can be heartless and airheads.
  Much hugs
  
• Reply #4 08/30/09  7:04pm
  
  ariesc8942
  uh! sorry this thing is acting up I'll send you a private message so you can read it better . sorry for the black things popping i dont know where thats coming from
• Reply #5 09/04/09  12:39am
  
  ashley868
  It's all right, I was able to read this, don't worry. I'll check out that group. My mom has told me not to feel bad about being a virgin, but it's hard not to. The way our society is, it's looked down on to still be one at my age. Plus, if I do finally meet a guy, he is going to wonder what's wrong with me since I am still a virgin at this age if he's attracted to me. I really have no experience. I've kissed a couple of guys, and that's it.
• Reply #6 09/21/09  12:52am
  
  HiLowDave
  Well now my young friend. You have absolutely nothing to be ashamed of. Your honor is still intact. Instead of being looked down at you should indeed be a roll model of human dignity. As well as moral concience. As far as beauty God doesn't make ugly people your are beautiful in his eyes and mine. It is what's in your heart that matters the most. If you can convey your words and thoughs on paper and read it back to yourself or share it with real friends a real friend will see your beauty and love you for it. The best thing you might consider is to be a friend to someone and just relax and enjoy the beauty of life itself. You are young and time goes slowly by, in not too many years like me I wish I could slow down time at times because it goes by so fast. I have been lonely in crowds and lonely when I am alone. More often than not I look for beauty all around me and in people also. I look closer then some and see the beauty others do not find apparent at first then slowly as I examine things I see beauty in all things. You may consider looking at the things you do best and finding out how to love yourself so others can see it also. MBTCL Dave
• Reply #7 10/07/09  8:51pm
  
  nennansmammy
  I'm sorry, I checked out your pics and I don't know why you say your ugly at all. You're still young. You'll find someone who loves you for who you are. First you need to learn to love you for who you are. You are a very attractive young lady. Your smile made me smile. Keep smiling, things will get better.

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