Neo7

Heartbrakes

Posted on 08/15/08, 06:48 pm

Hello, it's Neo the admin,
if anyone here has suffered a heartbrake, then you will have techniques of avoiding it, or softening the pain. if you have any, share them here.

I have a few
1.friends (they help so much, and help take your mind of your ex)
2.leisure(things you enjoy, sports, games, music, for me playing guitar really helped)
3.avoid denial(denial is the worst thing to go though during heartbrake, it'll just open the wound right up)
4. talking(talking about everything really does help alot, especially sharing problems and etc..just gets it all off your chest.
5. elimination of the ex(its always best to try to be friends with your ex, if she/he is a nice person. however if this is not the case, removing them from your life can help alot too. and give you the strength to move on)

hope this was helpful

-neo

• Reply #1 08/17/08  10:32am
  
  Kelldeann
  these are really good tips. ...#5 is a biggy! ,but i don't think u should necessarily keep 'em in ur life just b/c they are a nice person. ...sometimes, as hard and painful as it is u just gotta take a clean break from them in order to get over them-- put up all the photo's of y'all together,etc...-- that's where a lot of ppl end up doing the breakup/go back out thing. Then, later on after a few months of having them outta ur system and u a clear head can decide if u can handle having them back in your life as just a friend &it not cause too many issues w/ either party.
• Reply #2 09/02/08  7:54pm
  
  xxForgetReg...
  Friends hav helped me alot during my relationships. But its hard for me to be friends with my ex's bc one is untrustworthy & the other jus kinda annoy's me.
• Reply #3 08/12/09  7:53am
  
  ReiRu
  1. Friends like Neo said. They are a big help! Especially when you feel like you want to go to your ex's doorstep and just beg him to come back :P Surround yourself with realistic people and with friends who can sympathize with you at the same time.
  
  2. Time. As cliche as it sounds, it really does help. Try giving yourself time to grieve over the loss (not too much!) You have to decide for yourself that, "hey! It's time to move on!" I know it's really hard but that is the FIRST step you have to take. You can never move on if you don't want to.
  
  Rei
  "You say you want to die... But the truth is you just want to be saved."

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