Do any of you know another teen mom who you just want to slap back into reality?! I know someone that I graduated high school with (just last year, so she's only 18) who just had a baby by a guy she had a one night stand with. This guy won't even talk to her because he never even liked her, just got drunk after senior prom and got her pregnant! Since I've been through teen pregnancy already and I knew this girl from playing varsity tennis with her, I befriended her thinking she might want some teen mom friends since everyone knows how easy it is to lose friends when you get pregnant. After becoming friends with her, I realized she wasn't taking this whole becoming a mom thing seriously. She wanted to go shopping all the time, to buy things for her, not things she would need for the baby. She wanted to stay out late and go to parties, although she did not drink or anything thank god, and she would actually get mad that I wouldn't stay out after 8 or 9 because I had to get home to my son. She actually thought I would stay out all night and party leaving my son behind with whatever babysitter I could find. And she was totally in denial about the fact that she couldn't just let her mom raise the baby!

Now that the baby is 1 month old, nothing is changing. She goes out partying and drinking every night, her mom takes care of the baby all day while she sleeps away her hangover, she doesn't have a job and quit school to take care of the baby even though she isn't doing that, and she expects that nothing in her life should change. She refuses to make the father take responsibility or pay child support because she thinks it would be mean. She also got extremely angry at me for being unable to make it to her baby's baptism because that was the weekend my son was hospitalized for his RSV! She actually hasn't spoken to me since then because she is so upset that I wouldn't leave the hospital for a few hours to go.

I guess I am just venting and asking if any of you have experienced this with friends or family? I don't know what to do and I don't understand how anybody can leave their own child to be raised by their mother while they go out and get drunk and party constantly. She needs a reality check so badly but nothing I say to her helps. I have tried being nice to her and I tried just yelling it at her because it makes me so angry. I guess there is nothing I can do at this point, I just wish there was something because I know that she is going to regret these decisions and her son will probably resent her for not raising him if she doesn't turn things around soon.