Averysmom1

what if your husband is not ready but you are?

Posted on 01/12/09, 11:59 am

After the loss of my little girl Avery i have wanted nothing more than to be pregnant again. My husband said after she passed he would be ready to try again as soon as I was. Well he changed his mind. He sadi that he is ready but he doesnt think that i am yet. I am trying to show him how much i want this but he never wants to talk about it and when we do we always end it in a fight. What do I do?

• Reply #1 01/12/09  11:44pm
  
  Joshsmommie
  I THINK I am in the same boat with you....we decided we are ready ...we tried for several months and nothing now I think hubby has changed his mind ....he hasnt said it but actions speak louder than words......
  averysmom welcome....there is not much activity here but I check in often
• Reply #2 01/15/09  9:21am
  
  arihanna
  After losing Ari I wanted nothing more than to get pregnant again, my hubby wsn't really onboard, but I stopped taking my pill and we were just "careful". Well one day he said he thought he was ready, so no more being careful..We finally got pregnant in October, found out in November, and he was wrong he wasn't ready, he kind of freaked out for a couple weeks, I think he was just scared, which it totally understandable, and now he is fine, he's been picking out name, rubbing and talking to my belly. Things landed up working out for me, even though he wasn't as ready as he thought. I'm not sure what you can do for him to realize that you are ready..hmmm
• Reply #3 01/19/09  3:56pm
  
  dawnp4
  I know that I would love to have another child but my husband had a vasectomy while I was pregnant. I have told him I want him to reverse it but he is unwilling.He said we made a decision, but the facts have changed. I don't want the last memory I have of my babies is Hank not breathing. I'm not ready yet but I am 37 and want to have a baby before I am 40. I feel so strongly on this issue that it may end my marriage.

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