Well honey, I think you COULD move far away, but that doesn't mean you'll never think about your family again. It can take a long time to change the WAY you think about them, and the way they've made you think about yourself, and THAT would make all the difference for you. Being away from them if the situation is that bad would probably be pretty helpful, as long as you are in a safe and trusted environment. Therapy to deal with everything you've been through even after you left would probably be a must to help you work through whatever it is that's happened and to be able to NOT think of them and get upset after you go.
My cousin has a saying he often tells himself whenever he moves away, because he always comes back. Wherever you go, there you are. There are some things you can move on from, but they will always be with you, it's all in how you decide you are going to remember them, and what you allow those memories to do to you emotionally that will help make you into a happier person wherever you go.
If you decide to leave, be safe and stay the course towards healing, okay? Best of luck to you sweetheart.
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Do you think I could...
Posted on 04/18/09, 03:36 pm
After I graduate would it be possible for me to just move far far away and never think about my family again?
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Reply #1 04/26/09 7:57pm
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Reply #2 05/18/09 7:18pm
actually the BEST thing you can do is cut all family ties when the family is at all abusive. also cut ties of all people who in anyway are friends with or family of the bad family. you can also legally disown your family. that is always a shock to them and should keep them away. life is too short to keep evil people in your own world and there are so many other ways to have support without a bunch of lunatics around you. join a church and a church choir, join a bowling league, live in a warm climate where there aren't climatic emergencies very often like hawaii or something. life is what you make of it. -
Reply #3 05/18/09 7:20pm
also if people ask you just say they were killed in a car accident. normal people will accept this and abusive strangers will pry. that way you will know right away when you are dealing with an abusive stranger as well. keep in mind people only know what YOU tell them about you. nobody is reading your mind. -
Reply #4 07/07/09 5:23pm
"Wherever you go, there you are"
- Professor Irwin Corey
We all bring our baggage with us, as beingmyself said. I didn't mover very far, but I never see or hear from my family. I found out my father died by accident.
In many ways, you don't even START to deal with the pain until you're out of the situation. Be aware of this. Be prepared to deal with another round of bad feelings.
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