lovewins

life after family

Posted on 03/30/09, 12:48 am

what do we do when love from family is not enough? how do we deal with pain and hardships?

• Reply #1 05/18/09  7:35pm
  
  79pounds
  the idea in life is to be self reliant and self sufficient. the key word there is self". if you are using your family to vent, you are abusing them unless you are paying them hourly to listen to you, as you would a therapist. the military is a good place to learn benefits of our system of government in hardship and additional monies always available. and self help books as well as church support groups are great for dealing with pain, so is venting at one's car while taking a long drive.
• Reply #2 07/07/09  5:19pm
  
  Scrooched
  There's no escape from loneliness, ultimately. We're all alone in this regard. I guess I never had a real family, so I learned this at a young age.
  
  This realization is where philosophy starts and has motivated many people to change their lives. I respond by trying to learn better communication and understanding. Naturally, I screw this up a lot. But I want to see if there is a better way to bring people together.
  
  The answer I've faced, as have many others, is if what you receive is not enough, they you have to get through life anyway.
  
  Personally, I think that everything is illusory except what we feel. And so most of the things we worry about are nonsense.

this group is intended for people who came out negative family situations to help support each other