CandyLadyNJ

My Twin Sister died 2 weeks ago

Posted on 04/21/08, 08:22 pm

Hey, my name is Candy, on April 7 just two weeks ago, my twin sister Sandy died :( I am having extreme difficulty accepting her death and I realize I need help. I can talk to friends and family but sometimes it doesn't help. I cry every day and I recently began dreaming of my sister. I miss her so much!! I even asked God to bring her back. I have had anxiety attacks in the past which were really bad but I only felt a bit of panic right after Sandy died. Right now I just feel mentally/emotionally/physically/spiritually I could REALLY benefit from grief counseling here in New Jersey but have found nothing free so far. I can't even find a hotline number specifically for grief counseling but I literally just started looking. One number, the woman started to sell me on some cd's and audio tapes! I was like what?? I don't want to buy something! I need help dealing with my sister's death. Anyone know of a FREE hotline or good resouces for grief counseling or dealing with grief in general? Thankfully I did find the number of a chaplain who knew Sandy so I am going to call her. I look forward to hearing from everyone especially those who have had siblings to who died. Please feel free to add me as your friend too. I sure do need a hug!

• Reply #1 04/21/08  8:35pm
  
  bdsurov
  I do understand what you are going through and the difficult time you are having accepting her death. Remember Candy it has only been two weeks since your twin sister has passed away. If you have a physician go to them and they could help you find someone. I don't know if you have health insurance or not. Try looking in your phone book or call your local hospital. Please hang in their and take one day at a time. HUGS BETTY
• Reply #2 01/06/09  12:28pm
  
  bxbomber
  i know how you feel about losing a love one. i just want to let you know you have someone here who will be there if you need to talk.
• Reply #3 01/16/09  2:18pm
  
  ABrow
  i wish i knew a number. but the next best thing is to be on here and talk it out with some people.
• Reply #4 01/18/09  10:34pm
  
  Cry2Jesus
  1-800-445-4808 thats the number to the nationa grief recovery hotline. It might help. I have never personally called it but I hear they can be nice.
• Reply #5 01/19/09  10:01pm
  
  ABrow
  thanks for that number. its good to have those. i would hope they are nice.
• Reply #6 04/24/09  6:38am
  
  FallenAngel
  I found grief counseling through the local hospice. They offer 8 free sessions. I had my first session on Tuesday, and it was very helpful. I left feeling very peaceful, if only for a few hours. I lost my husband to a sudden heart attack on March 27, 2009.
• Reply #7 07/26/09  9:44pm
  
  TravisFB
  i know how it is losing your twin as my Twin Sister died 2 years ago after being involved in a drunk driving accedient when are older brother Dylan was briging her back from a friends house when a drunk speeding driver went through a red light and slammed straight into the side Trisha was sat on she died instantly cause of the impact my mum split from my dad cause they couldnt take it me and trish was the last of the kids we made the familey to 6 and trisha was the only girl in the familey and the youngest out of all of the familey my brother dylan took it hard cause he kept blaming him self so out of my Dad Dylan sr, Dylan jr, Jake, Simon, Issac and me. we hate not having her here anymore cause she made such a impact on every one RIP Little sister you are dearly missed. thank you for this post it as helped me get a lot off my cheast
• Reply #8 08/05/09  9:35pm
  
  merritt
  I know about the special bond that twins have my husband was a twin, the bond will always be there. she will always be with you.it just takes time you never get over it, but you learn how to live with it .make her proud.
• Reply #9 09/21/09  6:15am
  
  antrobus
  Hello Candy, my twin sister died on 23rd aug 09. I know exactly what you are going through right now. I was expecting sammys death but never ever prepared myself for what i would have to face.
  She had a 3 munth battle with cancer and i had to take care of her everyday at home where she died. Its very trumatic and you feel as though you will never ever get through it. She was only 28 and i have to have my first birthady alone on 3rd nov, its awful. I spent every secound with her, she was my shadow.
  I think no one will ever understand the closeness you share with your twin it is very different to normal siblings, this bond and conection is much stronger because we share our lives with them.
  Even though they are gone that bond will never be broken between us. i am struggleing like hell to be honest i have lost my own personality and self asteam, im sure you feel the same babe,
  Try to bravely face the future, thats what i am trying to do
  All my love Candy, i know how you feel pop x x x x

It is about the ups and downs you are going through while dealing with a loved ones death