You are a very brave and courageous person to share your painful story with others. I too was abused growing up and I still have trouble dealing with it at times.
We all need to love ourselves more and forgive ourselves.
Wishing everyone peace and warmth....
:o)
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The first story yet.
Posted on 05/21/08, 08:02 pm
This is going to be the first story but feel free to post your own.
As you all know, or perhaps don't know if you haven't yet visited my profile and such, I was abused. This has been difficult for me because it caused me to do things and think things that were not healthy but I have been better since sophomore year.
I have made the most improvement my Jr. year and plan to only continue getting better.
I have completed my goal of loving myself. That was the hardest thing that I could do. I cried for things that didn't even make any sense, like feeling bad about feeling bad. It soon became annoying. I annoyed myself. I knew that I had to take my mind off of what made me sad. I know that sounds easy but when you are like me and you are paranoid about 78% of the time or more, when you get bored you begin to worry and wonder. I realized that if I only busied myself with other things that were productive I could not only feel better about myself but also not have to think about unrealistic thoughts and no longer feel upset or depressed.
I know that I did those things before but I never realized how much time and energy I wasted being depressed.
My boyfriend, John, told me that I am scientifically dumber when depressed and when I finish eating because my body is using the blood that usually goes to my brain for the rest of my bodily functions such as digestion or adrenaline that is produced from being emotional.
If I can control my feelings then I can control my thoughts and the two go hand in hand. That is why it is best to talk things out when feeling emotional.
So the best advice is the advice that has been told over and over again but we were too naive or head strong to take it or realize it.
Talk things out, when you type something to someone, even when Iming, say it aloud and that will help you validate those words. Text is just as important as conversation because that is what it is!
When you say what you are typing or reread what you just finished typing you can realize just how much you mean to say or just how much you did not mean to say and that will save you and your comrade a lot of misunderstandings and heartache.
There is enough suffering in this world even without poor communication, disrespect and depression, so please do not condone to that.
And always remember: "All you need is love."
<3
F10W3Rchild
As you all know, or perhaps don't know if you haven't yet visited my profile and such, I was abused. This has been difficult for me because it caused me to do things and think things that were not healthy but I have been better since sophomore year.
I have made the most improvement my Jr. year and plan to only continue getting better.
I have completed my goal of loving myself. That was the hardest thing that I could do. I cried for things that didn't even make any sense, like feeling bad about feeling bad. It soon became annoying. I annoyed myself. I knew that I had to take my mind off of what made me sad. I know that sounds easy but when you are like me and you are paranoid about 78% of the time or more, when you get bored you begin to worry and wonder. I realized that if I only busied myself with other things that were productive I could not only feel better about myself but also not have to think about unrealistic thoughts and no longer feel upset or depressed.
I know that I did those things before but I never realized how much time and energy I wasted being depressed.
My boyfriend, John, told me that I am scientifically dumber when depressed and when I finish eating because my body is using the blood that usually goes to my brain for the rest of my bodily functions such as digestion or adrenaline that is produced from being emotional.
If I can control my feelings then I can control my thoughts and the two go hand in hand. That is why it is best to talk things out when feeling emotional.
So the best advice is the advice that has been told over and over again but we were too naive or head strong to take it or realize it.
Talk things out, when you type something to someone, even when Iming, say it aloud and that will help you validate those words. Text is just as important as conversation because that is what it is!
When you say what you are typing or reread what you just finished typing you can realize just how much you mean to say or just how much you did not mean to say and that will save you and your comrade a lot of misunderstandings and heartache.
There is enough suffering in this world even without poor communication, disrespect and depression, so please do not condone to that.
And always remember: "All you need is love."
<3
F10W3Rchild
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Reply #1 05/29/08 12:46pm
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Reply #2 06/13/08 5:08pm
Thank you. Feel free to join the group. You aren't required to be active but it is nice of you to do so.
Thank you again and I wish the same for you. ^_^
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