Well both my kids were in their own bed early, my daughter 2 weeks and son 8 weeks.
I think they sleep better and you as well. I think it is important for them to learn to fall asleep without the comfort of mom and dad and they gain some sense of independants.
IT will be very hard the older they get to break them from the habit of sleeping in your bed.
I don't know much on how you could transition them to there own room without a battle but maybe encourage them as much as possible and make some time that you could watch movies or something in your bed on special times.
best of luck.
Discussion Topic
Co-sleeping
Posted on 09/25/09, 09:25 am
Hello out there!
I posted his question in the natural parenting group as well but thought I'd get people's opinions here too.
Thanks!
KC
Hi all
My son is 3 1/2 and co-sleeps with myself and my husband. Every time I tell people they gape and assume I must be struggling to get him out and just suffering in general. Actually, we really love all sleeping together, its so lovely and we're all used to it now. At first I used to stress out when people kept on telling me I have to get him out and it was really ruining the whole experience for, it made me feel that maybe we were doing the wrong thing. Anyway, I ignore that now and we all sleep happily together:)
I do wonder though if there is an age at when he really should be sleeping on his own. My husband co slept with his parents until about four years old (he thinks). I asked what happened when he went to his own room, but he can't remember how the transition happened or how he felt about it.
What have your experiences been with this? At a certain age have your kids just decided that they want their own room? Or, have your kids stayed in your beds until much older like 5 or 6? Is there a certain threshold after which it really is better for them to have their own space?
Any/all feedback will be appreciated. Thanks!
KC
I posted his question in the natural parenting group as well but thought I'd get people's opinions here too.
Thanks!
KC
Hi all
My son is 3 1/2 and co-sleeps with myself and my husband. Every time I tell people they gape and assume I must be struggling to get him out and just suffering in general. Actually, we really love all sleeping together, its so lovely and we're all used to it now. At first I used to stress out when people kept on telling me I have to get him out and it was really ruining the whole experience for, it made me feel that maybe we were doing the wrong thing. Anyway, I ignore that now and we all sleep happily together:)
I do wonder though if there is an age at when he really should be sleeping on his own. My husband co slept with his parents until about four years old (he thinks). I asked what happened when he went to his own room, but he can't remember how the transition happened or how he felt about it.
What have your experiences been with this? At a certain age have your kids just decided that they want their own room? Or, have your kids stayed in your beds until much older like 5 or 6? Is there a certain threshold after which it really is better for them to have their own space?
Any/all feedback will be appreciated. Thanks!
KC
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Reply #1 09/30/09 8:38am
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Reply #2 09/30/09 10:02am
Hi Mommyto1,
Thanks for your reply. That's just what I wonder about, whether it will be difficult to get him out or not. Not many people I know (OK, no people I know...) actually had their kids sleeping together with them for this long, so I don't have other people's experiences to go by...So far it has been good, and in the early years I don't think being independent from us was necessary. But I do feel that sometime soon it will be... don't know if he'll just give us the flick of his own accord or if we'll have to encourage him to move into his own space...
KC -
Reply #3 10/03/09 10:12am
Weirdest thing happened... I hadn't mentioned anything to my son about his own bed, I hadn't even mentioned anything to my husband about it so that my son might have overheard... but, night before last he pretty much put himself to sleep on the sofa. We went to the bedroom together, read some books then I said time for lights out. He hopped up and said he wanted to sleep on the sofa. I said that was OK, so my husband grabbed his pillow and blanket and made a little bed on the sofa. One song later he was asleep! Later in the night I wanted to bring him to bed - I felt weird leaving him all alone in the living room - but he didn't want to go! So, this afternoon we went to the hardware store and bought 4 long pieces of dowel, we tied them to the four corners of his bed and draped a bright sheet over the top - instant bargain canopy! He has a single bed which he has never wanted to sleep in, it is in our room though as his (intended) bedroom is used as a study at the moment. He loved the canopy and for the first time got willingly into the single bed, and after 15 minutes or so fell asleep - amazing!
So strange, you would think he read my mind or something... I'm really happy that he feels happy in his own bed and is enjoying his own space, but I must admit it was a little sad not to have his cute little arms wrapped around my neck to go to sleep... -
Reply #4 10/06/09 7:55am
That is great..less headache for you , I was going to post back just do it at your own time when you are ready and don't rush and its like breaking a child of any habit and be patience and consistant. BUT you GOT IT EASY!!!!! that is great...Wish that would work for my daughter secruity blanket she sucks on.....can't get rid of that. -
Reply #5 11/04/09 6:09pm
if it works for you then why worry what others think. i have been criticised for co sleeping but worried about cot death amd know would keep checking he was ok
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