Well not trying to compare my child to yours at all, but I am a SAHM and my daughter counts to 16, knows shapes colors, ABC's, knows spanish words about 10 and counts to 5, can sing whole songs and other things. she turned 2 in feb. she doesn't go to day care and is mostly around me all the time. I think just because a child goes to day care doesnt mean that they will be smarter than a child that is home with its parents.
You have to think too, children learn from other children so you get bad behavior as well as learning.
I take my daughter to story time at the local libraries. She loves it and gets to interact with other kids, she is very out going anyways but she learns to play and kind of learning to share.
Then while going to the library I met other good moms and we sometimes met at the park or other activities.
Children learn at thier own pace, if you are worried about her not learning as much try new activities at home you can play that are fun, I teach my daughter but it is all in play, we color outside with chalk and I started with colors and then shapes, he have puzzles little things like that.
But at 2 I don't think you have anything to worry about at all.
You can call local churches ours have music classes. and your city for programs to get your child to interact with other kids.
I wouldn't put my child that this age in daycare yet, they have so much time to be in school later and I want to enjoy my daughter. she will learn when she is ready and its babysitting at this age in daycare.
Do you have a park near by, maybe you can meet other moms and start groups too.
hang in thier. its very rewarding to have your baby with you right now. enjoy it, they grow up so fast.
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At home vs. Daycare?
Posted on 05/06/09, 11:15 am
Recently I have started to feel like my child would be better off in daycare, and I really hate myself for it. I hate being the parent to compare their child to other kids in terms of development, but when it comes to learning I have been. My daughter is 2 and is home with me all the time. We don't go to any playgroups as there aren't any in the area. We have tried swimming and reading, but we aren't doing either right now. The problem is that she is really shy around other children. That's what started me thinking about putting her into daycare to be around kids. Today, I received an email from 2 different friends who have kids the same age as my daughter - both of which are in daycare - and they can do sing their ABC's, count to 10, and do their colors. My daugher does none of those things. She do colors sometimes (other times everything is blue, or white), she will count only if I'm doing it and she'll just throw the number in when we get to it, and she knows the letter E (although I think she thinks they are all E). So it just has me getting worried that she should be in daycare so she could learn more than she is with me, and I can honestly say that I HATE myself for thinking/feeling that way. Money isn't an issue in our family, so I wouldn't be doing it for that, or so I could go back to work, so it makes me feel like a failure for even thinking it. Any thoughts, or encouragement, would be really appreciated. I wish I had someone else to talk to about this, but I only know one other stay at home mom and she's not even a good friend. It's only SAHM's that really understand this kind of stuff!
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Reply #1 05/08/09 2:00pm
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Reply #2 05/12/09 7:53am
Don't do daycare if you don't have to. No one will take better care of your child than you. Find things in your area like story time at the library, go to the park, a class anything that will allow her to be social with other kids. Try not to compare her to other children. When my son was 2 he was barely talking, I had his hearing tested twice and worried all the time. He is 5 now and there is NOTHING wrong with his speech or any other development issues. My daught is currently 2 and her vocab is that of a 5 year old. Every child is different, don't be discouraged. -
Reply #3 05/27/09 3:08pm
You have to make your decisions within your own family's code of whats right for you all. Personally, I wouldn't do daycare. Some people do, and its not for me to judge. Its just not right for us.
Keep in mind, though... daycare isn't necessarily intended to be a learning environment. From a social skills point of view, yes. But otherwise, those basics like singing the alphabet and counting fingers and toes... those are the things that we are honored to teach our children. YOu don't want to miss those moments of discovery. Maybe you just need a little encouragement around how to integrate learning into your regular interactions. If you choose daycare, choose it so that it can serve its intended purpose. Don't expect them to provide more than the very basics.
At 2, some count, some don't. Some know their letters on sight, some don't. Some sing their abcs, some don't. See where I'm going with this? If you are concerned that she isn't learning certain things, then you should ask yourself if you are engaging with her enough around these topics. Don't think that you can't teach her these things. If you know your colors and numbers and letters, you are qualified. If you have concerns about whether she has a learning issue, talk to your pediatrician about it.
Social interactions don't need to be a major issue, either. Go to the library, the playground, the zoo, have a few playdates here and there... as you get out there more and more, social skills will grow. don't worry. -
Reply #4 07/17/09 9:39am
Hello, I have asked myself the very same question but its not just about education that bothers me, its being able to be independent which my 18 month doesn't appear to even want to consider. I have tried on numerous occasions to leave him in a creche so I can get some exercise but he just constantly cries and they come and get me after 10 mins. I do know other children whose mothers stay at home who seem advanced so its not the matter of daycare that influences them, if they are eager to learn then they will do.
I am trying to attend toddler groups like one today at my local library where they have story telling but I find them quite hard as the mothers seem to be clicky so I suppose its just a matter of persevering and finding a group where I feel relaxed in -
Reply #5 07/29/09 12:02pm
I am lucky that there are toddler groups and singing groups in my area and my once shy 1 year old is now confident around other adult and children, though we still have the head turning into my lap for the first couple of minutes of entering somewhere where there is a group of people - especially if they look directly at her if we are a little late to say a singing group. I think it has definately helped to integrate her with other children and she is much more confident than she used to be.
In September she will go to Nursery for two mornings a week which I think she will enjoy. I also want her to spend some time away from me as she has been with me almost 24-7 for two years now and I think she would benefit from spending some time away from me, after all, she has got to do it when she goes to school, and I don't want it to be a big shock for her. Mixing with slightly older children is good too and prepares them for their integration to school.
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