tiredmama

Another delay =(

Posted on 08/08/09, 02:19 pm

I spoke with my caseworker at disability determination and she says she will have to wait for the results of the new MRI that I will be having on Tuesday and for the notes from my visit to the rheumatologist in September and the visits to the neurologist and my neurosurgeon in October. I was supposed to get my first decision in September and now I'll have to wait for at least the end of October. I'm trying not to get discouraged. I know that if they wait there will be more evidence to support my case. I just hope it all works out.

• Reply #1 08/08/09  10:18pm
  
  mehimandkids
  Wow tiredmama...it seems like you and I are on the same timeline. I'm supposed to get my first decision in Sept. as well. I'm being represented by Allsup and they just told me yesterday not to get my hopes up. I had told them that both of my SS doc. appts. went well and both docs were supportive but they said that even then, most decisions are denial the first time out. They said the average USA rate of approval for first time decisions is 30% approval. So, I'm pretty bummed because I thought after the favorable doc appts., I should be a shoe-in. Not the case I guess. However, it sounds like what you said is true, the extra evidence they are waiting for sounds like, to me, they are building a strong case for a favorable decision, at least I would hope this is how we can interpret this, don't you? Oh, wait, of course you do! :) Like you said, I hope it all works out as well. I'm so sorry you have to wait longer. As it is, I feel like I'm waiting for September to hear a big DENIED....Ugh.
• Reply #2 08/09/09  10:35am
  
  tiredmama
  Don't give up hope! I refuse to. I pray to God that it all works out. I pray the same way my dad did.... I pray for God's will to be done in God's time, not my time. Yes it is discouraging, but I firmly believe God is on my side. There are reasons I am sure that he has decided I am strong enough to handle all this. I think it is helping me to learn to ask for help and not to rely only on myself. Someone recently asked me how I got all this.... the only answer I could give is that I have always been a VERY hard worker and had obviously worked myself to death, Obviously that's not the whole story. The whole story is I don't know, but no one wants to hear that, and I'm sure all the hard labor work I have done has contributed. In the meantime, I wait for God to make things happen in His time.
• Reply #3 08/09/09  7:58pm
  
  mehimandkids
  You know, you're teaching me a lesson. I've grappled with whether or not to ask God to get approved (which I have been doing in my prayers) or to ask for his timing. I feel really bad saying "God, please give this to us, we really need it, it is what my heart wants Lord" because I was not taught to ask for what you want but to ask God to give you what He wants, like you are saying tiredmama. So, my husband and I had a long discussion about it a couple of weeks ago and he has been praying like you're praying but I told him a woman at my church who tries to mentor me in my faith said, you just have to make a decision (like to work or not to work) and ask God to support you in that decision and to make it all work out for you in that decision. In this case, the choice was to apply for disability and I'm asking God to support us in this choice and to help us out with getting approved. Do you think I'm wrong to pray like that? Does anyone else have any thoughts on this as well? I think I know the right thing to do and it is a leap of faith that I'm scared to take, asking for His will in His time. But, if we don't get this, we're financially in trouble so we NEED this. Oh, I'll just be quiet now.
  
• Reply #4 08/12/09  1:11pm
  
  tiredmama
  In my case I prayed for what God wanted me to do. Did he want me to work, or did he want me to file? At every turn whenever I tried to do anything, I got so much worse. To the point I can't get up off the floor, if I get lightly bumped I fall down, and I can't even shop by myself now. I have too much trouble walking. I felt God was letting me know that I can't work anymore. Then I prayed that the decision will come in his time not my time. I go to mass almost every week. Sometimes I can't because I am in too much pain, but when I am there I am happy. I do not believe it is wrong to pray the way you are praying. The bible says, seek and you shall find, knock and the door shall be opened, ask and you shall receive. God does not ignore a godly woman.
• Reply #5 08/12/09  3:23pm
  
  Waitingforhim
  Does he ignore a women who has little faith?
• Reply #6 08/12/09  9:36pm
  
  tiredmama
  LOL... I am not at liberty to say as I have great faith. All I can tell you is that I was taught that if you wish for God to answer you must believe with all your heart. You, better than anyone, know what your relationship with God is.
• Reply #7 11/06/09  6:18am
  
  Oaktree123
  I have been praying to God for financial relief because my illnesses are impacting so many around me. Our landlord, my single parent daughter going to college, my older daughter who just lost her job, our utility providers, our county, state and federal agencies. I trust he will hear me. I have to finish some tests, been near-fainting several times daily. I am no longer a safe worker!! Baby steps, one by one, with God's help..

This is for any one that has found themselves in the long wait for Soicial Security. Any one that has gone through this process or is in the middle of it. Venting is allowed.