steve1974

looking for new online friends

Posted on 08/10/09, 01:51 pm

Hi everyone,

I'm not new to this group. I joined about six weeks ago but I'm struggling to make friends at the moment. So I just thought I'd introduce myself and say that I'm happy if anyone wants to add me, send a message or leave a comment.

I'm quite shy and fear rejection and have been a lot in my life which makes it harder for me to approach people. Even on this site recently I've tried to befriend some people or reply to journals or posts and not had any kind of acknowledgement. Do other people find that? It makes me feel worse about myself.

I'm also shy about posting which explains why I've not really posted before. But I have a good understanding about SA as I've suffered most of my life and would like to talk to others and help if I can.

Hope to hear from anyone,

Steve

• Reply #1 08/11/09  6:06am
  
  ladyspoonerism
  Hi Steve,
  
  I find that alot too, at times; but I'm also guilty of it myself, when I'm not feeling so cool. i'm happy to be an online buddy, chances are tho i aint around much as I have an insanely busy life so my onlineness comes in bouts!
  
  Kat
• Reply #2 08/12/09  2:34pm
  
  amyswift
  hi i think everyone is shy on this site to reply to stuff.. your not alone.. when i first joined 2 years ago... no one posted anything... I was like the only one who would reply to peoples posts.. eventually we had alot more people posting and discussing things which im super proud of.. your doing great :) keep up the posts dont get discouraged people are scared to reply to you sometimes.. .take care xoxo
• Reply #3 08/24/09  10:18am
  
  moojean
  Hi Steve!
  
  I'm also super shy. I've tried to be "out of my shell" online, especially on this forum but I'm still afraid of being rejected too. I've randomly added people out of desperation sometimes, but people seem to be very friendly here and they usually add me. :) But then when I look at other people's profiles with their many hugs, etcs, I get really discouraged and I feel like there's something wrong with me because it seems like no one wants to befriend me. Ack, I hope that wasn't too much!
  
• Reply #4 08/28/09  4:02pm
  
  Justonekitty
  Hi im new. I 'm shy too and have no friend outside my fam. when i post im a little anxious about ppls responces but the ppl on ds are really nice. You are not alone keep posting .
• Reply #5 10/07/09  2:32pm
  
  MissyJovyta
  Hello=) I am absolutely scared of people...no idea why...n i am invisible too....m so sure dat no one likes me,so whenevr a compliment comes my way,at first i get all upset coz i think dat deyr making fun of me,n it takes all of my family's counselling for me to realise dat it really was a compliment.by the way please dont giv up posting.and iv bn on DS since sept 23rd and dont have a single friend..
• Reply #6 10/15/09  6:50am
  
  KitTyFae
  I'm shy too...anyone can add me as a friend if you want.
• Reply #7 10/16/09  1:17pm
  
  Jobperson
  Hello everyone, I'am new to this group, just dignosed with social anxiety, I'v know for a long time,but did NOT want any one to know...I'am ashamed of it ,So very ashamed that ,I just add it to my list of illness on my profile today and I'am afraid of the rejection,(i know I will lose friends), most don't talk or comment on my journal anyway.. Can't say I'am shy, I think I'am very out spoken at times... ANd ""YES"" I have posted on other boards(about other issues) only to be ignored.. I was on the lupus board for a year or more and was ignored and treated like I was invisible..It seem to me when you say you have depression or ,anxiety people run the other way !
  
• Reply #8 10/21/09  8:04am
  
  sdebbur
  Hi steve
  Sure I would like to be a person to write too
  I have social anxiety also, and would ask if you had a thought about using the condition to our advantage somehow. What do u think? Please get back to me,with your thoughts.
• Reply #9 10/21/09  8:14am
  
  careds
  Steve, i will b your friend i have the same problem but i can post with ease as i feel no one's judging me on this site it really helps.
• Reply #10 10/23/09  1:07pm
  
  leannhf
  Feel welcome to add me to your list too! I've had social anxiety my whole life. The internet is the one place I can talk to people. Like the lady above,I don't feel I'm being judged on these sites. It's nice to share your thoughts with people who have similar problems.

Hello, I'm Gen82 and suffer from social anxiety (SAD). I noticed there wasn't any group that specifically addressed this disorder at the time so I started my own. Social Anxiety is a term used to describe an experience of anxiety (emotional discomfort, fear, apprehension or worry) regarding social situations and being negatively evaluated by other people. Be kind & considerate to all members & support each other. Please join us, you don't have to feel alone anymore!