SOBs Significant Others of Borderlines Community Group

Spouses and family members of people who have borderline personality disorder (BPD) are often victims of violent behavior, and frequent physical and emotional abuse . There is typically conflict in the relationship and in the individuals who are committed to maintaining the relationship in the presence of this disorder.

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Please link good websites or other online resources into a reply in this thread.
Group Founderjohnnycake
johnnycake
A great video about how it feels to have EID ...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qt9SOvILMI8
Group Founderjohnnycake
johnnycake
Here's a link to one of the recruiting ads for SOBs that I put on the groups for victims of physical, verbal and emotional abuse. The ad list the diagnostic criteria for EID, so it should also be included among the web resources.

http://www.dailystrength.org/groups/physicalandemotionalabusesurvivors/discussions/messages/9748664
Group Founderjohnnycake
johnnycake
Theories and symptoms of EID; a longish article but not a book. Identifies several prominent experts in the field.

http://www.palace.net/llama/psych/bpd.html#
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johnnycake
A website serving people who are seeking information about DBT (Dialectal Behavior Therapy).

The site was written primarily by PEOPLE WHO HAVE BEEN THROUGH DBT, not DBT professionals.

http://www.dbtselfhelp.com/
Group Founderjohnnycake
johnnycake
An entire website for people with family members that have EID:

http://bpdfamily.com

Thanks to strongbutwobbly for the tip!.
Group Founderjohnnycake
johnnycake
A great instructional video, with musical soundtrack "Just Like Heaven"

http://www.bpdfamily.com/bpdresources/nk_a102.htm
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johnnycake
A series of articles on EID/BPD by Beth MacHugh, a professional who offers online counseling services:

http://mental-health.families.com/blog/category/1398

It includes some interesting and concise histories of some victims.
Group Founderjohnnycake
johnnycake
Susan Quinn's intro to BPD for the masses:

http://susanquinn.net/are-you-in-a-relationship-with-an-emotionally-abusive-person-with-borderline-personality-disorder/

Her advice is, unfortunately, over-simplified and simply inadequate.
Group Founderjohnnycake
johnnycake
Gunderson and Berkowitz' Guide for Families of pwBPD:

http://www.borderlinepersonalitydisorder.com/family-connections/family-guidelines/

http://www.bpdfamily.com/tools/articles5.htm
http://www.bpdfamily.com/bpdresources/nk_a105.htm
Group Founderjohnnycake
johnnycake
A short but very good article in two parts about BPD basics and how to cope with them.

http://psychcentral.com/lib/how-to-help-a-loved-one-with-borderline-personality-disorder-part-2/0008764

http://psychcentral.com/lib/how-to-help-a-loved-one-with-borderline-personality-disorder-part-2/0008764

" Remember that changing behavior is often like water over rocks: gently, consistently and in a validating way, continue to encourage <the change> while communicating your belief in your loved one’s ability to have a life worth living. "
Group Founderjohnnycake
johnnycake
"A man who persistently chooses borderline women, has severe attachment fears."

from an excellent article titled "The Male Borderline" (a.k.a. Inside Casanova)

link http://gettinbetter.com/casanova.html
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