dhwilson506

Why won't anybody believe me?

Posted on 10/30/09, 12:08 pm

I know you can't prove pain, but I am tired of people not believing that I am hurting. I have even showed my MRIs to my friend and she is like 'so?' Does anyone else have this problem?

• Reply #1 10/30/09  11:05pm
  
  CNAmedic
  There are people with the ability to feel and show empathy in this world..... and there are people who feel for you but is unable to show it. You even have those who just can't seem to imagine the world of chronic pain.
  I got tired of people who didn't seem to believe me and started telling them where I didn't hurt: "Today my wrists are fine."
  
  Prior to my periods I have aching joints and muscles and it could be the hips one day, the hips and a knee the next day, the third day it could be headaches and the wrists aching. I've simply stopped telling friends that I hurt because it doesn't really make any difference. If I get next to imobile of pain, people will see it.
  
  The worst one to deal with was actually to sit in the medical office with chestpain and a racing heart and the doctor responded to my "well my chest stings" by moving to the next question as if I'd never mentioned it.
  Another doctor gave me instructions on how to relieve it at least.
  People are extremely different when it comes to ability to relate to and understand pain.
  
  I hope you find ways to vent the frustrations of living with chronic pain. I believe this group is great for that. To find ways to cope, we've got to accept the pain - and what we cannot accept we can always educate more on and see if there are ways to change the pain.
  
  Hill
• Reply #2 11/01/09  7:20am
  
  Annery
  I can relate to that. I feel like my family do not understand that i do go through pain. They make me do work around the house, even though i have mentioned to them that my swelling gets worse and painfull when i stand , i tell that to mom today and tommoro she tells to do the same thing again. Do i have to remind her.
  
  At time people do not understand.

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