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Abuse is not always physical:
Posted on 09/07/09, 01:20 am
There are three problems with the perspectives on abuse in these articles. All three come from a lack of knowledge re: the crimes of abuse played out across the world all day - every day.
1. Abuse is not always physical:
Domestic abuse, also known as spousal abuse, occurs when one person in an intimate relationship or marriage tries to dominate and control the other person. An abuser doesnât âplay fair.â He or she uses fear, guilt, shame, and intimidation to wear you down and gain complete power over you. He or she may threaten you, hurt you, or hurt those around you. Domestic abuse that includes physical violence is called domestic violence. http://www.helpguide.org/mental/do...
2. Just because a person doesn't acknowledge the abuse or report it doesn't mean it isn't happening:
According to a recent survey conducted by a national crime victims organization in California, the top three reasons domestic violence victims victims don't report the abuse are: 1.) Fear. Many victims are too afraid that if they report the abuse the batterer will kill them, harm their children or other family members and pets. 2.) Reporting domestic violence can be demoralizing. Victims are ashamed and often too embarrassed to report to law enforcement. Many victims suffer in silence believing that they some how deserve to be abused emotionally or physically. 3.) No guarantee that reporting will lead to an arrest or conviction. More and more victims of domestic violence are being warned by domestic violence agencies and organizations that reporting the abuse will not necessarily lead to an arrest or a conviction. In California in particular, facing a dire budget crisis and prison over population often lead to early release of batterers and little if any jail time. - Many victims of domestic violence do not report abuse. -http://www.examiner.com/x-17770-Sacramento-Abusive-Relationships-Examiner
3. Finally: No means no! regardless of your marital status when it comes to sexual relations:
"Forcing someone to engage in sex against her will is rape, no matter whether the act occurs between marital partners, acquaintances or complete strangers. Being married to someone does not give that person the right to rape or abuse them in any way." - http://yourtotalhealth.ivillage.co...
1. Abuse is not always physical:
Domestic abuse, also known as spousal abuse, occurs when one person in an intimate relationship or marriage tries to dominate and control the other person. An abuser doesnât âplay fair.â He or she uses fear, guilt, shame, and intimidation to wear you down and gain complete power over you. He or she may threaten you, hurt you, or hurt those around you. Domestic abuse that includes physical violence is called domestic violence. http://www.helpguide.org/mental/do...
2. Just because a person doesn't acknowledge the abuse or report it doesn't mean it isn't happening:
According to a recent survey conducted by a national crime victims organization in California, the top three reasons domestic violence victims victims don't report the abuse are: 1.) Fear. Many victims are too afraid that if they report the abuse the batterer will kill them, harm their children or other family members and pets. 2.) Reporting domestic violence can be demoralizing. Victims are ashamed and often too embarrassed to report to law enforcement. Many victims suffer in silence believing that they some how deserve to be abused emotionally or physically. 3.) No guarantee that reporting will lead to an arrest or conviction. More and more victims of domestic violence are being warned by domestic violence agencies and organizations that reporting the abuse will not necessarily lead to an arrest or a conviction. In California in particular, facing a dire budget crisis and prison over population often lead to early release of batterers and little if any jail time. - Many victims of domestic violence do not report abuse. -http://www.examiner.com/x-17770-Sacramento-Abusive-Relationships-Examiner
3. Finally: No means no! regardless of your marital status when it comes to sexual relations:
"Forcing someone to engage in sex against her will is rape, no matter whether the act occurs between marital partners, acquaintances or complete strangers. Being married to someone does not give that person the right to rape or abuse them in any way." - http://yourtotalhealth.ivillage.co...
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Reply #1 10/15/09 1:52pm
right now Khabri, education is the best way to fight this nasty treatment!! -
Reply #2 11/14/09 12:26pm
For a long time, I tolerated verbal abuse from my ex....long before he became physically abusive. He always acted as though he was superior, and better than everyone else.
Sabrina -
Reply #3 11/19/09 8:51am
hello,how true you are about abuse not always being physical.and about being afraid,there are also spiritual reasons why some dont report there abuse and there up bringing -
Reply #4 11/19/09 9:42am
Yes true. Sometimes it is better initially not to report... but there should be a way to keep it documented with police without having to go through the courts until we are ready.
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