eklord

Verbal Abuse in the Workplace

Posted on 08/29/09, 11:11 am

My boss verbally abused me yesterday, and gave me the cold shoulder the day before. She has done this for years to many employees, which is probably why they quit. I am reporting it, but where do I begin? I feel like dirt, and that I am not capable of doing my job well, even though I know it is not true. Any advice anyone?

• Reply #1 08/29/09  6:08pm
  
  Scrooched
  You can go to the HR department, if your company has one. And there maybe government resources in your state. But with so many people out of work you have to be careful. If they find a reason to fire you, there are lots of people out of work.
• Reply #2 08/29/09  10:41pm
  
  eklord
  She is already trying to fire me by setting me up for disaster as well as herself. The person in HR acts just like her. I can't trust either of them. I did file a police report online, but have also since then started to look for another job. It is so frustrating to be treated horribly like I was there. All I wanted was respect, but I listened and obeyed her every step of the way. Monday, my husband and I are going to get my stuff out there at noon, but hopefully I will hear something for another position beforehand. I sure hope. Please be in prayer. Thank you, Scrooched, you did help me. Am I on the right track everyone?
• Reply #3 08/30/09  1:45pm
  
  Scrooched
  good luck.
• Reply #4 08/31/09  10:48am
  
  eklord
  The police report will be officially filed today, and the EEOC complaint form as well. I will try and keep everyone updated. Thank you for your advice.
• Reply #5 08/31/09  11:09pm
  
  ThePhoenix
  wow
  your gutsiness is inspiring
  yes please keep us posted
• Reply #6 08/31/09  11:52pm
  
  eklord
  I also filed charges with the Kansas Human Rights Commission. That makes 3 places now. Wow. As soon as I hear of anything I will let you know.
• Reply #7 09/01/09  12:31am
  
  khabri
  Honestly I had to go to HR when my supervisor did this to me. It got so bad I did not sleep for three days and I was falling asleep behind the wheel driving home. I decided that either I report her or the stress would literally kill me.
  
  BTW.. ek.. if you need some info on DV in the workplace we will try and cover this in our webinar on the 12th. Let me know if your interested. I can not tolerate verbal abuse but at the same time its hard for me to deal with so often I end up bottling up the anger and exploding later. I have a hard time with confrontation.
  
  Good for you for standing up to this!
• Reply #8 09/01/09  11:54am
  
  eklord
  Thank you khabri. What time does the webinar begin in regards to CST? That is what got me so confused.
• Reply #9 09/01/09  1:44pm
  
  khabri
  Here is the info:
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  Time & Date:
  Saturday, September 12, 2009
  Indianapolis (U.S.A. - Indiana) at 2:00:00 PM UTC-4 hours EDT
  Los Angeles (U.S.A. - California) at 11:00:00 AM UTC-7 hours PDT
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  Northeastern Group Consulting, LLC was formed by veteran law enforcement officers who not only recognized the harm of violence in the community, but also the need to educate. Their daily experience with this violence made it obvious that more could be done to prevent domestic violence and reduce the risks from other types of violence. They also recognized the need to increase awareness in the community and private sector in order to prevent or reduce the number of horrific tragedies which result from this senseless violence.
  
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• Reply #10 09/01/09  1:45pm
  
  khabri
  I show the two times because that is the difference in time zones...
  
  

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