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'Breaking point/ the unspeakable....

Posted on 11/03/09, 09:16 pm

I love animals,probably more than human beings, so what I just experienced has me disturbed with myself. I have a cat that was pawned off on me 7 yrs ago with her brother and I immediately embraced them as mine. This female, however, is so nasty and dirty that I am at my wit's end. The other day I started to think I didn't want to be bothered anymore. She is so nasty that she punches a person for just walking by her and continually puking purposely on personal belongings and now is dirtying in a bedroom from which we removed the litter box, putting two boxes now in the basement for aesthetic purposes. I just can't take cleaning all the time. I let her out as often as she wants and try to teach her love and affection. I have made progress, she sometimes will come near a human for pets and has learned how to mooch like the other animals. I know if I get rid of her that no one will keep her and that she is destined for death if I give her up.
I wonder if other people have taken on an animal such as this and made more progress than I have. I think seven years shows how patient I have been and I feel like a louse for feeling so turned off. How did this animal become so anti social? Also, when I entertain she takes flying leaps for my hor'deorves (sp) and one time just missed her tail going on fire going up to my lit candles. Maybe she should spend her time outdoors more and only come in to sleep...I'm running out of ideas as to how to give her the best chance possible and make both her and I happy. Ideas?

• Reply #1 11/04/09  2:45am
  
  leileismom
  First, I want to commend you for even trying to provide this little castaway with a home. How about putting her in another room, with the door closed, or in the basement when you have company? She can't get into mischief then. As far as the "marking" in the room without a litterbox you will just have to keep her out. Cats don't seem to get that it's not o.k. to do this indoors, since they readily do it outdoors to mark their territories. You won't be able to "break" her of this habit, so you will have to prevent her from being in there. That, or like you said, she may need to be an outside kitty. The "puking" you described is probably nothing more than hairballs she is regurgitating. She is not intentionally doing it on your valuables, that's just where she happens to be when she has to upchuck. Often they do this after they jump up on something and the motion causes them to want to throwup, like motion sickness, especially if she is having a problem with hairballs. She needs medication for this, and frequent brushing to rid her of excess fur. Take her to a vet to make sure there are no underlying, or undiagnosed medical conditions that might also be to blame. Many cats just are not very affectionate nor like a lot of attention. She may be one of these and no matter how much love and affection you try to dote on her, she may never respond favorably. Some just don't. I realize how hard it must be to do so much for a creature that doesn't appear to be showing much gratitude. Cats just don't think like this, so try not to take it personally. You have been very patient and attentive to her. If all else fails you may have success in finding her a home as a "barn cat" in the country. Many people want such cats and don't care if they are sweet or not, just that they will be good mousers. Good luck with this and please keep us posted. Peace
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• Reply #2 11/05/09  5:53pm
  
  htag
  I feel for you. My cat is not as moody, but a lot of ppl don't want to even come to watch her when we are away due to her meaness. She's sweet to us, but very crabby (growling, hissing, swatting, etc) around other ppl who try to even look at her. She will hide on her own when ppl come to our house. I tell ppl that she WILL bite if they try to touch her. this tends to keep her at bay and ppl safe.
  
  She was peeing everywhere when we got her. She still does. The vomitting thing was nerves. She'd get herself wound up, and then puke on stuff. We had her in a single room full time cuz she caused so much chaos on our house when we got her. She had a window to look out of. She had food, as much love as she'd accept from us when we went into that room for kitty time. The vets have to wear the heavy gloves for birds, and blindfold her just for an appointment. I've had vets give her a mild anastetic just to knock her out long enough to check her over. We've theatened every year to put her down. I've even gone so far as to put her in the car to drop her somewhere. She's the love of our lives though. As frustrated as she has us, we will just keep on keeping on. You can't return kids, and they are a life obligation that you take into your family (in our household oppinion).
  
  Good luck to you sweetie.
• Reply #3 11/16/09  5:56pm
  
  Kahlua13
  My little kitty was a wild kitten my sister found. She loved me, but no one else. And I am not really even a cat person! But we also had a dog. So the dog, I got hugs and kisses from. You know? She had hairballs bad and was an indoor/outdoor cat for most of her life until the last 4 years or so when she just got too old and kept getting attacked and injured. But yep, a lot of cleaning up many times a week. We waited to replace carpets while she was alive. I could never bring myself to put her down. She lived to be 17 years old. We eventually had to put her down the day after Thanksgiving last year because her poor little body was just shutting down and she was suffering. So I think for us, it was just something we accepted and dealt with. After all, she was a wild kitten and sort of anti social anyway. But we were her family and I still loved her.
  
  I agree with blocking her off certain places in the house, and putting her in the basement when you have company. I think she will even be happier being removed from the "chaos" during those times.
  
  Good luck!

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