BP mom with ADHD childPosted on 06/22/08, 09:30 pm
Reply #1 06/23/08 5:52pm
My son has the ADHD also, but he also has Oppositional Defiant Disorder, UGH!!!! The worst!!! and Aspergers. Jacob had a really hard time concentrating and staying in his seat and paying attention in school.He has temper tantrums and behavior issues even with the medicine. We are upping the meds next month in the hopes that the behavior comes down to a manageable level.I hope!!! I too love my son like crazy but he also can drive me up the wall!! I am right there with ya!!! My son also has a hard time fitting in with other kids, he is quirky, loud and sometimes to the point of rude. He wants to talk about and do what interests him and not anyone else, or he is just soooo quirky, the other kids dont want to play with him. I feel bad for him at times, he wants so bad to make friends and it is so hard for him.
I took him to a party recently for a friend in his class who was moving away and it hurt me so to watch the other boys at this party. Jacob had just gotten a new Bionicle for his report card and was just obsessed with it as usual, and the other little boys were talking about him and teasing behind his back and my heart broke for him. The little boy who the party was for was very nice to him but I could see the discomfort on this childs face trying to be cool with his other friends and be nice to Jacob too. It was hard, very hard. I tried to make Jacob put the toy down or make him engage with the other kids trying to make him fit in, it was pointless and I should know better but it was so hard to watch I couldnt stand it.
I dont know about any ADHD kids sites but if you find one I would love to hear about it.
Welcome to our group, it was good to hear from you and I hope to talk to you again!!!
welcome and take care!!! Melissa
Reply #2 06/23/08 10:35pm
I am so pleased that I got a response. just about everything you mentioned is a mirror effect on my son. he trys so hard to be friendly and get noticed by other kids.And the won't respond. Quirky is a great word to describe his behavior. I get embarrassed for him. And because of my Bipolar...I will come right out and say something. How rude they are and don't waste your time on people that treat you that way. but he does not understand. In reality...I want to go over and kick them in their butts for hurting my son.I want to put them in their place.Well, I am looking foreward to spending more time on this site. Thank you for your words of acknowledgement. ((HUGS))
Reply #3 07/01/08 12:28am
Have you thought of looking for groups that you could take your son to that other ADHAD kids went too? I am not sure where you are, but most the time you can find some sort of workshop. We have them here in Florida but I am sad to say my Ss BM will not take him nor allow us to take him, long story.
It is VERY hard, it is not our children's fault and yet it is so tiring and stressful to live with day after day. This is a good place to start, lots of nice people on this site.....
Reply #4 07/04/08 11:30am
Just reading what you both have wrote has made me cry. I have a 10 year old daughter who they are still trying to diagnose. It started out as anxiety, then ADHD, then bipolar, now they guess OCD. I am lost. So is my poor baby. Everything you have said about your childrens interaction with other children is discribing my daughter. I would love to join your group, and look forward to learning alot from you both.
Reply #5 08/19/08 11:01am
Good morning Moonshowers,
I too, have an ADHD child, along with AS, OCD and SID. He is on medication (Adderall XR). At times, I tell you it can be very trying, for me, my husband and his two siblings. He's a lot of fun, adorable, and all around great kid. But, sometimes not all people don't get to see those sides because they don't look deep enough, or just look at a passing moment, if that makes sense. We've put a lot of interventions in place. Jacob needs to move and it seems like it's all the time, unless he's fixated on his legos. We have a bouncy ball that is specifically for the house, we use. He can bounce it on the floor, or against a specific wall when we are giving him directions, or working on things like spelling. We have found that when he is moving he focuses better, or thereafter. At school, he gets movement breaks. Since 1st Grade, he gets a scheduled, morning and afternoon and sometimes there's a need for an unscheduled one. For example, in between tests. It may be as little as delivering mail to the office or a walk around the building. Just something to get him moving to help him refocus. We have also noticed when we are speaking with him and he's not paying attention, we may just stop what we're saying and ask him to do a couple of jumping jacks, push-ups or sit-ups. This also helps. In class, drawing also helps him focus on what is being said. So, for intensive listening, he draws. This all plays a bit into his sensory issues. But, the energy level is high and these small interventions do work. We have also that certain artificial colors are very bad for him - even with meds, he flies off the handle. We noticed a change too, when we added Omega 3 and 9 supplements to his diet. We have discussed his body and why he is taking the meds he is. He knows about all his dx's and is able to tell us when he feels like he needs to run. The parks are our friends and thankfully his two sisters just run and try to keep up with him! =)
BTW, this is a great organization. http://www.chadd.org/
A very good friend of mine turned me onto it. A lot of good information out there. You can find local chapters and everything.
Good luck! =D
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