Lilliebird

I am going to ask anyway!

Posted on 05/29/08, 09:43 pm

I know there are always issues when the subject of spanking is concerned. Please remember we ALL have our own views and rights to practice what we see fit as parents. With that, I am going to ask...

Anyone with a child in the Autism Spectrum, AS and so on, have you use spanking as a form of disapline and do you feel it works for YOU? I am curious. I do not have a say in much of ANY form of disapline with my step son, but I have often wondered if spanking would help or make things worse, he is not spanked in any, never has been, and basically gets NO disapline from his mother at all (my husband does try as best he can on the weekends). With out getting into a heated debate on the spanking issue, I was really hoping to get feedback from those who have children in this spectrum. Thanks!

• Reply #1 05/30/08  5:08pm
  
  mom4
  Well, here we go and I know some people are going to get bent out of shape but that is their choice and EVERYONE has the right to discipline their children the way they see fit. Yes, I do spank my children, it is not often, it is only on the butt, and only when I feel it is necessary. I was spanked a lot worse growing up than my children ever are, with belts and other available item, fly swatter etc. My parents both were spanked and low and behold we all turned out OK!!! So, with that said, yes I do spank my AS child sometimes and to be quite honest with you, there have been times and I told Jacobs Dr. this also, there are times when he is so out of control, or in such a rage about something that a swat has been the only thing to snap him out of it. And I think too that there is nothing wrong with a smack on the butt at times to get their attention and make them realize what they are doing is wrong and will not be tolerated. Personally, I think some of the problems with kids these days is parents are so afraid to put a hand on their child that they let them get away with murder. Now, I'm not saying beat them, I'm talking a butt spanking. I think most of us on here when we were growing up and I'm not saying ALL, but I bet most of us got spanked as a child at one time or another, and I think the children of today have such a lack of respect due to a lack of discipline. I know I have probably left myself wide open for critisism but I'm a big girl and I can take it. Yes, I do believe in spanking even my AS child, I DONT beat my kids, but they do get a spanking on the butt OCASSIONALLY!!!!
• Reply #2 05/31/08  12:52am
  
  Lilliebird
  I had often wondered if AS kids responded to it that is all. Like I said I have no say in his disapline and trust me, there are times I have to walk out because I want to say, he needs a good pop to set him straight, but I do not. I am not against a swat here and there, I just wanted to see if anyone found it worked, thanks for your imput, I appreciate it as always!
• Reply #3 05/31/08  8:26am
  
  mom4
  well, I have to agree with ya!!! Sometimes a pop is the best thing to snap em out of it!!!
• Reply #4 11/30/08  4:58pm
  
  mountainlover
  I agree with mom4. I do spank open handed on the bottom sometimes for my son with AS, ADHD and ODD. My son is very defiant and I have found this helps to remind him that he is not in control and I am in charge.
  
  Like mom4 said, I am fine and was spanked much more often than my child and I have nothing but respect for my mom.
• Reply #5 01/24/09  6:44pm
  
  CoolBeans
  I couldn't agree more with mom4. It is a choice, for instance my sisters choose not to spank and well, while all children are not like this and I'm aware of this, but my nieces and nephews have no control over theirs. Mine do get spanked but only when necessary. Lord, I could not imagine if my son got no discipline whatsoever, he would literally rule this house. I remember I told my sons teacher this one time and she said "I understand but can you try this, this and that?" I told her very politely that I have done all that but with some kids, I believe, that spanking is necessary.
• Reply #6 03/17/09  10:26am
  
  triciah
  in my opinion, here's my rule of thumb: If I'm so angry at him that I have to smack him, then I don't. If I use it to get his attention so he can focus on me and the directions, then I may. I'm not a big spanker. It's not for me. my husband always says I should, but usually that's because daddy's the one that's frustrated, not me or my son. that's just my two cents.

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