oceanbluze

My brain says smile but my mouth wont cooperate

Posted on 06/27/12, 06:38 pm

Just mad after all said and done, jerk never showed up to get my daughter from school last friday and was 40 minutes late getting the kids, he doesnt deserve to be around in the first place. Today he was 20 minutes late, Friday he tried switching the location from the POLICE STATION to some random beach. TOday he tell me that he switching the time for tomorrow. Cant the court see he clearly has a control issue. These meetings are court issued and he doesnt seem to care. When I bring it up in court, he just says I am a liar. When the police put through a call saying he was a no show, he claims he called and cancelled and tries to say I purposely went down there to screw him over??? HE IS SO SICK in the HEAD! and he is roaming the streets of Orange County and Los Angeles a FREE MAN! Im court ordered to work, which I do, but how can my job keep making exceptions for me being late because of him. Its almost as though he is trying to get me fired. I know he tried once before and I have been at this job for 6 years. Now I am at work trying to put on a happy face and I just dont feel like I can. I was already late, I dont feel like I can ask to leave early.

• Reply #1 06/27/12  7:28pm
  
  Warriormama
  Why can't he just get hit by a bus?! I feel your frustration. Is it possible to just not fight with him anymore? I wonder if that isn't what this sick POS is all about. He really seems to get his jollies out of messing with your life.
  
  What if you showed no emotion at all. Would he lose interest because he isn't getting a reaction? I mean that is really all he has anymore. He can't do anything else to you. Take away his power to push your buttons. and he may just find other fish to fry. (Too bad he just doesn't fry)
  
  I still think the best idea is that he just get hit by a bus. Voila! Problem solved!! :)
• Reply #2 06/27/12  9:12pm
  
  oceanbluze
  I don't that's the thing. I stopped fighting a long time ago. I am finally getting peace with myself about everything. The problem is whenever we have these custody exchanges, he tries to change the location right before, or change the time when I am heading out the door. I mean the court order is very specific. SO i try and go by what it says. It's like he does stuff to have control over anything, because we left him, he has no control now. But by coming ten minutes late, or twenty minutes late, or saying he will be there and not showing up, he knows we are waiting around for him, and have put off plans or re-arrange work schedules to meet the court expectations, certain things are court ordered, like meeting at the police station, he tries and changes it and says he will be somewhere else with my kids. He has threatened before i left he will kidnap them if I ever left and I will never see them again. Of course the judge just gives him a verbal, you better not flee with your children, but does nothing to protect us. I try not to worry, but sometimes I do feel sad that my kids are sitting in the car, or we are sitting in the police station, and he doesnt show up, its bad enough they dont want to go, and then I make them, because its court ordered, then we sit and wait and wait. It breaks my heart. and while we are waiting the kids are asking me, why do we have to come here all the time?
• Reply #3 06/28/12  10:26pm
  
  mommaKL
  POS is right!
  I hope they lock him up and soon.
  The court seems blind. Our system is so messed up. Works for the perp and not the victims.
  
  big hugs
• Reply #4 06/30/12  12:46am
  
  oceanbluze
  Yeah where's my right to an attny, I asked for one they said no, public defenders are defendants, not petitioners. Such bullcrap!

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