loserhusband

Can ANYONE help?

Posted on 06/15/12, 08:40 pm

My whole world has turned upside down. My five year old daughter disclosed to me about what daddy had been doing to her. I've been married over 11 years and absolutely LOVED this man. Although I had suspicions and uneasy feelings, I NEVER dreamed in a million years he was doing things to my daughter. I always blamed myself and said that it was "my improper thinking" until she disclosed to me.
I've gone through a CPS investigation and forensic interview. My daughter recanted to CPS, the police, the peditrician, but since being in therapy, will talk about it with people she trusts (mainly me, my mom, my dad, and the forenisic interviewer and her therapist)
I have been a stay-at-home mom and wife for over 11 years. I had to file for divorce based on what she disclosed to me. My husband denies everything and I filed a restraining order in my daughters name to keep my husband away from her.
The court battle is just now starting. first I have to fight and prove I need the restraining order, then we begin the divorce.
Any help or advice? I'm barely breathing and I"m so overwhelmed by everything. I'm running on adrenaline right now, but I know that will soon pass.
He closed our joint checking account and left me with no money. I now know what food stamps are and look like (EBT card) and I"m living day by day.
Someone please pray for me. Someone please help.

• Reply #21 07/12/12  5:16pm
  
  Hard2bstrong
  Im so sorry this happened to your daughter too mines was 3 yr old when she told me as a mother going through the same thing I advise you not to expect much for social services, cps or the police. My daughter didn't disclose anything to her interviewer the first time. The cps investigator and a female sheriff was quick to send her back to her abuser (father) and made me believe that sometimes kids say stuff. I then started to take my daughter to therapy when my daughter disclosed the sexual abuse her therapist called the CPS investigator and told him and her told her to have me call the hotline he did want to did nothing. After my daughter kept showing signs I called Department of children again they ended up calling me asking what was going with attitude asking if i was reporting the same allegations when i said no they were new allegations since then instead of them coming to my home they made me go to there office. When i got there they took me into a room and questioned me i disclosed what my daughter was saying and the CPS investigator just stood staring at me like i was lying until i brought out my book with the exact dates these incidents were accuring then she started writing and finally went and talked with my daughter and she disclosed enough for them to have a no contact and opened a second case. Later when we were just started to go to court my 1st case investigator came clean about dad going to the Department of Children Office dressed in his military outfit claiming that this was a custody battle which explained why my case was dismissed and closed the first time. I also later on found some papers in court with a paragraph from the female deputy who was in the room when my daughter was interviewed the first time stating that she felt this was a custody battle between the parents. So dont expect anyone to do there job stay on top of everything get a notebook and keep track of every little thing. Keep taking her to therapy it helped my daughter. Its extremely hard and takes alot of strength and fight but we can do it goodluck and godbless

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