Prayers for MePosted on 03/10/13, 01:39 am
Reply #1 03/10/13 1:55am
I am so sorry. We went through this last year. It was horrible. Is there anyone that you can go out with tomorrow? Maybe to a movie, shopping or dinner. Stay as busy as you can. I am sending you hugs. I hope that in some small way it comforts you knowing that we all care about you.
Reply #2 03/10/13 1:59am
My thoughts and prayers are with you this week -- you can get through this. Broken hearts hurt, but they can heal with God's help. Just take it one day at a time this week ... The shame is on our kids ... just keep breathing ... be kind to yourself and take it slow ... it takes time to heal and recover from these blows.
Do what you can to take extra care of YOU this week -- and let the rest go ... We are all here for YOU and for YOU... ((hugs))
Reply #3 03/10/13 3:05am
Oh I'm sorry, I just reread your message and realized that you said in seven days. ~ This is just an idea but I want you to think about it. Do you have a passion? Animals, children, the elderly? As much as you might not want to go out I want you to consider volunteering a half hour some where. Maybe going to a nursing home and sitting with someone for a few minutes. You could bring a book or flowers or even a magazine. Or maybe going to your community's animal shelter and offering to walk a dog. Get out your phone book and call a few places to see what it needed. You only have to commit to thirty minutes. Trust me on this and try it.
Reply #4 03/10/13 3:55am
I'm so sorry, Cswiney. Lord knows it hurts to have the heartache of the broken dreams of things like special days and events that we thought we would share with our ECs. Do what you need to do for you to get through the week, focus on things that are good for you and enrich you. Hugs and prayers.
Reply #5 03/10/13 9:10am
CS, my daughter eloped with a guy 9 years her senior. She did not tell anyone intil after the fact. You will get through it but it will take time to accept you were not a part of it. The cruelty just sickens me! I will be holding you close in my thoughts this week. Hugs my friend!
Reply #6 03/10/13 3:57pm
We will all be holding you close in our thoughts this week. A fear of mine is as you say, them getting married or having children and leaving me out of it all. I feel your pain. Hugs and prayers to you :)
Reply #7 03/10/13 6:59pm
I learned about my daughter's upcoming wedding invitation from a friend. I had several months to "adjust" to the fact that I was uninvited. She did tell my best friend that she was "considering" inviting me. But I didnt see that as a possibility after a few days passed from their conversation.
I just kinda blocked it out. I did send her a simple text wishing her a beautiful day. And I did things that day... ordinary, not all that exceptional... and had a decent day. That was back in December. Now that I look back it is only ONE day. It was an special day and I wasnt invited, but in my case, the EX and his terrible parents would have been there and I am sure it was much more stable with me missing.
It is what it is. I say that a lot during this time of trials.
Reply #8 03/10/13 7:00pm
ps DO NOT SEND MONEY OR GIFTS.
That's my mom's advice, as well as the advice of the friends I trust best.
Reply #9 03/10/13 7:58pm
I am so sorry to hear of this CS, as I am all the other members who were not invited to weddings. I am still reeling from the cruelty of our EKs. They have no compassion. Yes, it is only one day. They will be busy with friends and their day, so......what would it mean to invite their mothers? It is so harsh.
Reply #10 03/10/13 8:06pm
My thoughts and prayers will be with you this week. The heartbreak is terrible. I agree with the others - try to stay busy that day. Do something that you've been wanting to do. Grab a friend and go on a day trip shopping somewhere. Or even better, go somewhere new for the weekend. Plan your own "Big Event" and try to enjoy it! Just don't be alone that day... Hugs to you and God Bless!
Do you have adult children, who have blamed you for everything wrong in their childhood, lost contact either through addiction, divorce, or in laws? No phone calls for birthdays, Mother's day, just no communication. How do you cope with the emptiness, the painful loss of not having your children in your life? *WARNING*: Read this note about privacy: http://www.dailystrength.org/people/548/journal/1802327