chacy

update on dghtr in rehab

Posted on 10/19/09, 01:20 pm

Got my oxy, herion, potsmoking 17 year old into a VERY good rehab. It's in Malibu (EchoMaliubu is name)1 block from the beach. They get indv. therapy EVERY day as well as group.Accupunture 2x aweek and massage 1x. Art therapy and exercise everyday too. The therapists are actually the ones who take them out to movies, dinner etc. too. So it's like therapy all the time. We went for the paerenting/comm. and multi-family group therapy this weekend and it was AMAZING. Don't know how it will end, but after this I know that we gave her every opportunity to heal in every way. Am going to alanon 2nite as my anxiety about the outcome of all of this is spiraling. Thought if I got her to go, I'd feel totally at peace-not so. Working on detachment will be a lfelong process for me, I guess.

• Reply #1 10/19/09  7:54pm
  
  sunnierain
  I am happy for you and for her. It sounds wonderful more like a spa...I think all of us could use that place...
  Seriously, I hope things work out praying for you and family. The meeting will help you deal a lot.
• Reply #2 10/20/09  10:56am
  
  chacy
  I would SO love to go and procces thru all my crap while being cooked for and massaged. This is her one big rehab chance w/ us. If there woulld b a next time (god forbid)it's state run institution here she comes.
• Reply #3 10/20/09  2:52pm
  
  bcolliesmom
  I hate to burst the bubble - but here goes - I hope the rehab that your daughter is going to is going through you or your husband's health insurance. If you are paying the rehab out of your pocket (savings) then please think again before sending her off to this luxuary rehab - the reason being is - if she is going to rehab to pacify her loved ones, it's a waste of time and money. If she is going because she wants to get clean and sober - it's a step in the right direction. I have to tell you that no rehab is going to work for an addict that isn't ready to get clean and sober - so that means it won't mean squat to the addict if they aren't ready. No matter if the rehab is the best money can buy or a state funded one. Just something to keep in mind. I'n not trying to be mean, unkind or heartless, just telling the truth - I am a recoverying addict for the past 22 years and also have a 24 year old son who has been in recovery for heroin addiction for the past 2 years - so I have been on both sides of the fence.
• Reply #4 10/20/09  9:23pm
  
  Sillyhp
  bcolliesmom said it all!
• Reply #5 10/21/09  9:24pm
  
  EthelM
  I totally agree.
• Reply #6 10/22/09  10:43am
  
  chacy
  she went willingly after her friend and brother confronted her and her boyfriend went to jail. I wouldn't send her until she agreed to go for the exact reasons you are saying. Also,she has a lot of emotional health issues right now-abusive relatuonship, grief ovr loss of loved one, HUGE anger issues and this place is 12 step, but also super intensive thereputically.Its the therapy every day that I think will make a differnce no matter what else happens. She is really trying to heal our relationship. We've talked more in the past 10 days than last 6 mo. so I am happy with the progress that she is making.
• Reply #7 10/22/09  11:56am
  
  BubblesDavey
  Thank you for posting your collective realities. My husband and I paid for two rehabs for our son. He didn't go because he wanted to, he went because others told him to go.
  I pray for you and your family. Addiction/mental illness/etc. is a difficult thing to deal with.
  
  
• Reply #8 10/22/09  6:43pm
  
  cherrie1
  chacy
  
  I too know how you are feeling. Happy she sounds well, but be a little cautious. This is something she will struggle with to some degree for the rest of her life. I remember the first time my son went to rehab. I just thought he would come home better. Not so. He has been through 6 rehabs. I am sure each time he has learned a little more and he always wanted to go but at some point stopped doing what he needed to do. Right now he is doing great in a court ordered rehab. I spent thousands on private ones and so far it seems like this free, in your face one is what is finally getting to him. That and the little bit of jail time he served. Best of luck to both of you.
• Reply #9 10/22/09  10:04pm
  
  EthelM
  My son was a lot like yours Cherrie. Each time he was willing to go, and each time he seemed to get something out of it. He has more than once seemed to be at the bottom, but obviously wasn't. Be cautious chacy, because very few will really turn things around the first time around. It is so much bigger than they are.
• Reply #10 10/23/09  6:52am
  
  mgs1
  And, statistics unfortunately show... it isn't the quality of the rehab that matters, it is the state of mind of the addict.
  In their twisted minds, they often feel "rehab" is their reward.
  Something they deserve. Not trying to burst your bubble but "consequences" are more impactful.
  Hugs.

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