BlueOctober09

I just found out???

Posted on 10/03/09, 08:19 pm

On Monday of this week my whole life changed, I found out my daughter (20) was on oxy. On tuesday she checked herself into a 9 day detox program. I'm still numb!!! What will happen next? Please anyone HELP ME!

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• Reply #1 10/04/09  10:50am
  
  EthelM
  Hopefully I'm wrong, but more than likely this is just the beginning of a long and painful roller coaster ride.
• Reply #2 10/04/09  2:04pm
  
  bdms
  We all never want to believe this is happening to us! Our lives surround our children and how they grow up. Unfortunately, life changes and we are faced with a painful journey. So sorry you are facing this now, but know we all are here for the very same reason. Keep a journal and never hesitate to ask for guidance from Daily Strength. I have found more comfort through DS than my very close friends. It's because we all have this in common. Already some good things are happening. She is in detox!!! She is getting some counseling. Sending hope and blessings to you for strength to help get through this very difficult time for both of you!! Hugs, D.
• Reply #3 10/04/09  9:02pm
  
  cherrie1
  Hi, sorry you are going through this and as EthelM said it is probably just the beginning. You will find a lot of support here. My now 25 year old son started on oxy and then switched to heroin because it is cheaper. Very long story short, we have been going through this nightmare for 4 years. She is going to need long term treatment . Just detoxing is not enough especially is she is coming right back home to where she used and her friends. Best of luck to you and her.
• Reply #4 10/04/09  9:09pm
  
  PammyC
  I am so sorry for your pain. This site has been a god send to me. I have an 18 year old who started with drinking, pot, xanax, oxy now heroin. He is now living a sober living home after completing a 30 day treatment center (he has done 3 rehabs now). So roller coaster ride.... yes, but the information and support you will find here is just the best. You also might want to consider Alanon mtgs. Good luck to you and God Bless.
• Reply #5 10/04/09  10:07pm
  
  Lynae
  Start going to meeting now, don't wait any longer!!!!! You'll need all the support you can get, It will probably get worse before it gets better.
  Gather all the information you can about the disease.
  Pray, ask questions, your doing the right thing, just remember your NOT ALONE!!!!!
  (((((hugs)))))
• Reply #6 10/05/09  10:09am
  
  sunnierain
  I also am sorry for the pain your going through. We are all here for same reasons and it isn't easy but people here make it better.
  Yes, it is a rollercoaster ride but at least here you can get information and help and support.
  I go to Naranon meetings to get support also.Please lock your things up now that have any value,and keep your money tucked away, because addicts steal first and then it is too late. Sorry to be so blunt but better to learn now. Post and ask what ever you need. God Bless
• Reply #7 10/05/09  12:34pm
  
  BlueOctober09
  She checked out today, 2 days early they said it was ok.
  I want to believe she can do it but I have no trust in her, the last year has been nothing but lies. She was acting strange when I picked her up. I know that I will not help her with any $$ now that I know what she was spending it on. I will ask to see a receipt any time I need to pay for anything. She hasn't ever stole from me and will take your advice about locking things up just incase. Why tempt her. How will I know if she uses again? Do piss text work? What should I be looking for? The only signs I knew before was she spent a lot of money with nothing to show for it and was always moody. I'm going to get counseling for me and her along with NA meetings. It's so hard for me to understand when I have no addictions. I appreciate all your help and advice.
• Reply #8 10/05/09  10:57pm
  
  BubblesDavey
  I would hope you get to some Al Anon meetings as well as counseling.
  Al Anon has helped me deal with the challenges of my son's addiction/mental illness. I was very naive for a very long time.
  
• Reply #9 10/12/09  2:37pm
  
  mgs1
  7 days of detox is nothing. My advice and personal experience is she needs detox, 90 - 180 days of rehab and then a year in a sober-living facility.
  http://dasis3.samhsa.gov/
  check here for resources.
  
  
  Drugs are not the probem, they are a symptom.
• Reply #10 10/20/09  1:32pm
  
  Lynae
  All good advice, ppray, pray, pray, ask God to REVEAL the right ANSWER to you, and he will!

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