MrOutacontrol

Supporting someone with weight problems

Posted on 04/20/08, 10:19 pm

My wife has struggled with obesity, so I thought I would see if I can get any ideas on how to help

• Reply #1 04/21/08  6:16pm
  
  Depree
  Hi there. I am not sure if what I will help you. Just love her and be there for her. Are you a healthy eater? If she is trying to become healthier by eating healthy--it may be hard but please eat similar to what she eats. Not even so much because---you have to eat what she eats--but just to support her and her goals. It's so hard when you are fighting with the food and other outside forces. It helps that the people who are the closest to you support you in all areas. Tell her how much you love her and how beautiful she is (even when she's in sweats) you might already do that...but..just thought'd I'd make a point of it. Help realize that it will take time to overcome her obstacles and that it's okay to take time. Just being there for her. If she vents to you--please don't take it personal. I know when I am upset I eat and some of the food , sugars really get me on an emotional roller coaster. If she is concerned about weight---help her reach her goals...do things with her that will help her attain them. It makes all the difference. I know that when I was married and my husband would bring me a salad and say lets go for a walk, instead of a movie, I was thrilled. Not only did I feel support, but I didn't feel a lone. Often times obese people feel isolated when they can be surrounded by so many people who love them. Help her on the inside so that she knows she is worth it to make the changes on the outside. Don't force her to change, you can just make gradual changes that will kind of pull her a long in a good direction. I would like to hear how things go! You will definitely get the support that you need here. Depree in WA
• Reply #2 05/09/08  8:46pm
  
  thickheaven
  That is awesome, joining this group shows that you really love her and care about her. Make sure she knows you think she is beautiful it will make her feel more motivated. Also do not push her to lose weight and when you show concern (if she is easily offended) make sure you never ever say anything about her appearance,but rather that you are concerned for her health.
• Reply #3 05/15/08  1:20pm
  
  DebyDavis
  DID YOU GET MY REPLY MROUTACONTROL, LET ME KNOW ILL WRITE IT AGAIN OR LET US KNOW HOW IT WENT
• Reply #4 05/15/08  1:39pm
  
  DebyDavis
  YOU EVEIDENTLY DIDNT GET MY RESPONSE THE OTHER DAY, IM GONNA TRY IT ONE MORE TIME, CUZ YOU HELPED ME ONCE THE TIGER AND THE MOUSE GAME. HAHA OK ITS CLOSE TO FRIDAY NIGHT MAYBE YOU BOTHE DONT HAVE TO WORK. SET THE SCENE. YOU FIX A HEALTHY DINNER FOR THE TWO IF THERE ARE KIDS CALL GRANMA ITS DATE NIGHT AND TREAT IT AS SUCH, NOW AFTER YOU EAT TELL HER HOW NICE SHE LOOKS I AGREE WITH DEPREE 100 PERCENT WE LIKE TO KNOW ITS WORTHIT YOU CARE, OK START LOOKING AT PICS,COMMENT ON HER HAIR HAIR BROWN OR BLONDE IT WAS WHEN YOU FIRST STARTED DATING COMENT WITH A THOUGHT IN MIND ,,OH GOD HE DONT LIKE MY GRAY HAIR NO PICK A PIC FATHER BACK BUT MAKE SURE SHE ISNT LOOKING AT HER WEIGHT ITS HER HAIR OR SOMETHING USE THOSE GOD GIVEN DIMPLES TAKE HER MIND OFF IT. THEN SUGGEST WE GO FOR A WALK HAVE A WATER BOTTLE READY HOLD HER HAND AS IF SHES THE ONLY ONE IN THE WORLD,LOOK AT HER WHEN YOU TALK SHE IS SOOOOO IMPORTANT THAT YOU WANT TO BE SEEN WITH HER HOLDING HANDS AND SO IN LOVE, THEN GO HOME . DRAW HER A BATH AND PUT HER FAVORITE FLOWER PETALS IN IT LET HER SOAK CUSE IF SHE DONT WALK TMR SHE WILL BE SORE AND YOUR NIGHT IS FAR FROM OVER,PICK OUT YOUR FAVORITE NIGHTY ASK HER TO WEAR IT FOR YOU, SHE WILL AFTER ALL YOUVE DONE FOR HER THIS EVENING YEAH SHE WILL WEAR IT. THEN TREAT HER LIKE A WOMEN ,, DONT TOUCH THE PARTS SHES ASHAMED OF LIKE TUMMY BY PASS THAT, MAKE HER TOES CURL LIKE YOU DID YRS AGO. LET HER SLEEP IN WHILE YOU MAKE A HEALTHY BREAKFAST FOR HER, THEN OFFER TO GOTO THE GROCERY STORE WITH HER THE DREADED PLACE A FOOD ADDICT HATES BUT LOVES TO GO. GO WITH HER PROTECT HER I KNOW YOU ARE SMART ENOUGH TO GET THE GUET LET US ALL KNOW HOW IT WORKS OUT OK DEBY DAVIS
• Reply #5 05/18/08  4:13pm
  
  DebyDavis
  THE SUSPENSE IS KILLING ME GET IN TOUCH LET US KNOW HOW IT WENT.YOU DO KNOW WE ARE GONNA EXPERIMENT ON YOU DONT YA TO GET OUR HUSBANDS TO DO IT TO SO YOU ARE GONNA BE A ROLE MODEL. NO REALLY THIS IS FROM MY HEART OF HOW I WISH IT WLD HAVE WORKED FOR ME AS FOR MY HUSBAND HE IS AN ENABLER HE LIKES HEAVY WOMEN I CANT DO THIS ANYMORE SO LET US KNOW IF IT WORKED
• Reply #6 08/08/08  10:40am
  
  hippymama
  Just let her know how much you love her. If she is a binge eater or you notice her eating certain types of food, try to see whats bothering her. Don't even mention the food, just try to learn her triggers and distract her if you can. My husband knows when I am sad or ticked off by what I grab to eat. Hope this helps

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