DazyDuke

Big Boys Don't Cry!!!!!!

Posted on 03/19/09, 10:54 am

I would like to know why men feel they cannot cry. As a woman and correct me if I'm wrong but I find personally it's a great built up stress reliever. Do you think men would lead healthier happier lives if they cryed. I know how tiring MS can be. And I find one of the best ways to relieve my rock-bottom is a good cry. I find it very therapeutic and I physically feel better after a good cry. I just wish men had the same freedom to express Stress through a good cry and not have the hangup it's not manly, it's just an outlet.

• Reply #1 03/20/09  12:38pm
  
  chriscoxrox
  I have always been quick tempered and ready to fight. Thought that I was macho. Like you said Men don't cry. That all changed when the meds started in 06. Even t.v. commercials made me cry. Breakdowns with emotions build up to a cry. I can still kick some ass if i have to but i might cry after it. There is nothing wrong with crying. It shows that you are human. Humans have emotions. let them out!!
• Reply #2 03/20/09  1:53pm
  
  DazyDuke
  Good for you, every tear shed is a cleansing of our souls, just like spring rain it washes away winter grime to make way for new life.
• Reply #3 03/20/09  3:36pm
  
  BINKSwithMS
  It is not that I don't want to cry, I just can't.
  
  I sometimes know that I should just sit down and cry as that would make me feel better. It just won't happen.
  
  I have a great way to vent now. I turn sorrow to anger then anger to rage. Then I take it out on a very heavy and well beat up old stove stored in the garage. Since I am in constant pain anyways it really doesn't matter much.
  
  I can tell you that I can pick up a very old oil-burning kitchen stove and throw it across the room when I get really mad....lol
• Reply #4 03/20/09  3:39pm
  
  BINKSwithMS
  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3ug...
  
  
• Reply #5 03/20/09  4:26pm
  
  DazyDuke
  WOW! The Tammy Faye Baker of men!
  
  And finally something virtuous about you, (Your Heart)!
  
  Thanks for the song and thank whoever for the stove! LOL!
• Reply #6 03/21/09  8:17am
  
  weirdone
  real men do cry.. I do when I feel sad and sometimes a good cry helps as well....... :)
• Reply #7 03/22/09  9:58am
  
  boomer51
  I saw my dad cry twice==once when we as a family were watching the funeral of President Kennedy on TV and when I got married. Wondering was that a cry of sorrow or tears of joy that the last child got married==hmm.
  
  Crying for me is a release like a slowly seeping of air from a balloon (minus the noise), holding it in would be like blowing a balloon till it bursts.
• Reply #8 03/22/09  2:41pm
  
  hypochallenged
  I believe that it shows vulnerability...Who wants too show that???Not that a man shouldn't cry (it happens),
  but they may feel like doing so is like exposing a turtles belly,and doing so in front of whomever
  could spell testicular suicide(in their mind).
  
  just a thought.
• Reply #9 03/23/09  11:46am
  
  karenBBSR
  'MEN R FROM MARS,WOMEN R FRON VENUS' IS A BOOK THAT TALKS ABOUT THE DIFFERENCES IN HOW MEN AND WOMEN REACT. THEY'LL DO WHAT THEY WANT AND WE ALL REACT DIFFERENTLY TO THINGS. I NO I FEEL MUCN BETTER WHEN I CRY AND JUST GET RELIEVED OF STRESS.
• Reply #10 03/25/09  9:52pm
  
  shevan
  I only saw my dad cry once, when his mother died. I believe men should cry more - there's that stupid stigma that it's unmanly - it isn't - except when it's overdone, like Montel. He's always spoutin' the tears - it loses it's credibility for me then.

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