HopefulinVT

Just need to vent and be selfish for a minute...

Posted on 12/11/08, 10:22 am

I am a bit disappointed, just found out that since our little guy is coming so close to Christmas in such a tough economic year nobody is giving us a shower. I was told by my family that anyone who wants to get me a gift still will so it is no big deal. BUT it is a big deal to me. It is not just about the gifts it is about celebrating and having a day I thought for sure I would never have. After 5 years and a crazy amount of money spent trying to get here the least they could do is get me a darn cake or something! I have three cousins who have kids less than 2 years old and they all had HUGE showers so we were selfishly hoping ours would be the same since we are still making huge monthly payments for IVF. I know I am being selfish but I am disappointed and hurt....

• Reply #1 12/11/08  12:45pm
  
  jobunny
  You are not being selfish at all!!! Having a shower is about so much more then just gifts, it is about celebrating your pregnancy and your little baby to be with the people closest to you. It isn't selfish to want to celebrate and be the center of attention...this is your time finally and it shoudl be everythign that you have hoped and dreamed about! On the practical side, not getting gifts really sucks! It is unrealistic in this day and age to expect the parents to be to buy everything that the new baby will need. Yes, there are tons of things that you register for just b/c you can, but there are lots of expensive things that you will need and you aren't wrong to be upset especially if your cousins had huge showers. Can you have your DH say something to your mom to let her know that you are hurt and that while you don't need a huge lavish shower it is important for you to celebrate this time with your closest friends and family?
• Reply #2 12/12/08  5:30pm
  
  rfanshier
  I don't think it's selfish at all...especially since they gave great showers not that long ago!!! I am having my third child and when I questioned whether or not I should have a shower, several family members and friends said the shower is about celebrating that baby not the mom...so they each deserve a shower.
  
  I no longer feel guilty...I am so sorry your family can't see it in themselves to celebrate your little one...they are each special...hard times or not!!!

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