OMG, you just described my worst fear! A "Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde" scenario. I am SOOOO sorry that you are going through this!! It sounds like it's the Lupron and that she completely trusts her doctor. Many women, including myself, have a hard time explaining their fears about Lupron and the anxieties of the side effects. I have only been on it since this last Monday 9/28/09, and I am already beginning to not feel like myself.
Have you tried other family members? Maybe you could do an intervention. She will undoubtedly regret what she is doing after she comes to her senses. You may have to do the "tough love" thing. Are you worried about your children? If she can turn this drastically on you... I don't mean to put you in fear. She doesn't seem like a person that would hurt anyone but they MUST be confused. Don't give up on communicating with her doctor, or perhaps try another one, someone that will listen.
I'm sorry I don't have much advice, but "KUDOS" to you for trying to save your wife from herself!!! I will put a link up for you to do some research and then maybe you can print off some of the things you want her or her doctor to see. I have heard many stories of women turning on their husbands/boyfriends while on Lupron treatments, but they are aware of it. She may not think it's from the injections because her doctor didn't inform her of the side effects. My doctor only told me that I may have some hot flashes, bone loss, and that was pretty much it! I informed them that there are MANY more than that and his RN said,"We would be here all day if I had to tell everyone about possible side effects of EVERY drug!" ??? That's why I research these things!
Anyway, sorry for the short rant! I have a hard time focusing with the Lupron!
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Good Luck!!
Stay Gold!
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Stephanie
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Im lost
Posted on 07/02/09, 02:52 pm
Hi group,
I'm in the Military and I returned from my last deployment in Nov 08. Just before I returned from deployment, my wife was refered to a doctor because of her endo. The doctor recommended she take lupron. Without doing any kind of research on the drug, my wife took the advice from her doctor and began the treatment in Feb 09.. In Jan 09, I was sent to DC for 10 weeks for work. While I was there, I noticed my wife acting pretty much paranoid about everything. She was having real bad mood swings, night sweats, etc... She was suppose to be taking the 1 shot every 3 months for 6 months but the nurse gave the wrong one so she started taking them every month. Since she started taking them, I dont even know who she is. The mood swings were horrific and she claimed to pretty much lose all feelings for me all together. Or as she puts it, "numb". We been married for 11 years and we have 3 children, 4, 8, and 10. In March she left me. I
went to take a shower and when I came back down stairs, she and the kids were gone. She moved in with her sister vowing never to come back. That same week she filed for divorce. The day I was to be served the divorce papers, she called me on the phone and claimed she wanted to come back. We have been seeing a
counselor since she has been back on a bi-weekly basis to help us with our issues. At this point, I havent even thought of the possibility that Lupron could be effecting her in ways that may have caused all of this.
During the end of May, I was headed back to DC this time for 5 weeks. She was with me in DC for the first
week, we had our anniversary together and we had a great time. I was supposed to return home on the 26th of June. On the 22nd we were talking on the phone and planning our vaction and tweeking the dates we
decided on for early July. All of a sudden, she started to seem to be down. I asked her what was wrong and she claimed "nothing I'm fine". Well I didnt let it go at that because I knew something was bothering her. She then began to tell me that she wanted to leave and she didnt want to be married to me anymore. I immediately called my supervisor and told him I was leaving was leaving DC and going home. Now it was 10:30 pm and I was driving from DC to Augusta, GA.
I made it home around 7:00 am the next morning. I went up stairs and she was still sleaping. I gave her a kiss on the cheak, said hi and took a shower. I didnt want to bring up anything about our discussions the previous night in fear of sparking an argument. She was however pretty angry that I put my carear on the
line by leaving so abruptly to come home.
Later that day, I called her sister (who she tells everything to as they are very close) to find out what was going on. She suprisingly said she had no idea and it was the first she had heard of my wife wanting to leave, again. She was concerned and I expressed my concerns to her and explained that I think the side effects of the Lupron shot may be a contributing factor. She somewhat agreed but only claimed to have seen notable mood swings over the months. When I got off the phone with her she then called my wife to find out what was going on. When my wife got off the phone with her, she initiated the conversation. It didnt go so well. She claimed the shot has nothing to do with it. She doesnt love me, she feels nothing for me, doesnt want to be here. All of this mind you appeared to be the total opposite just the days, weeks, and months prior. And not must by her words but also her actions. She showed me love. She always has. She then immediately
packed her bags and the kids bags, called her sister and went to her house. She called her lawyer and she has now filed for divorce and I am supposed to served next week.
Now she thinks Im crazy for thinking the shot could affect her this way and is in complete denial. She also has a history of depression which she had recieved treatment for stopped about 3 years ago and lasted for about 4 years of treatment.
I have been researching a lot of websites with patient feedback concerning this drug. The side effects can be horrible and longlasting. I read something simular to my situation on one of the other sites but there was very little detail and advice on what to do. Does anyone have any suggestions? Or am I way off in even
thinking the Lupron shot could be the culprit?
The bottom line is, Im scared. I love my wife. I cant believe what is going on and I am totally confused and terrified that there is nothing I can do. She took the last shot in the middle of June. What can I do? I contacted her doctor, he blew me off and call her, she told him that she feels fine.... Our marriage counselor is in shock and disbelief. She even contacted her doctor after I informed her of my concerns with Lupron. He wont return her calls.... What can I do? I mentioned to my wife about websites like this one and she gets so angry, I dont know who she is anymore...
Thanks.
I'm in the Military and I returned from my last deployment in Nov 08. Just before I returned from deployment, my wife was refered to a doctor because of her endo. The doctor recommended she take lupron. Without doing any kind of research on the drug, my wife took the advice from her doctor and began the treatment in Feb 09.. In Jan 09, I was sent to DC for 10 weeks for work. While I was there, I noticed my wife acting pretty much paranoid about everything. She was having real bad mood swings, night sweats, etc... She was suppose to be taking the 1 shot every 3 months for 6 months but the nurse gave the wrong one so she started taking them every month. Since she started taking them, I dont even know who she is. The mood swings were horrific and she claimed to pretty much lose all feelings for me all together. Or as she puts it, "numb". We been married for 11 years and we have 3 children, 4, 8, and 10. In March she left me. I
went to take a shower and when I came back down stairs, she and the kids were gone. She moved in with her sister vowing never to come back. That same week she filed for divorce. The day I was to be served the divorce papers, she called me on the phone and claimed she wanted to come back. We have been seeing a
counselor since she has been back on a bi-weekly basis to help us with our issues. At this point, I havent even thought of the possibility that Lupron could be effecting her in ways that may have caused all of this.
During the end of May, I was headed back to DC this time for 5 weeks. She was with me in DC for the first
week, we had our anniversary together and we had a great time. I was supposed to return home on the 26th of June. On the 22nd we were talking on the phone and planning our vaction and tweeking the dates we
decided on for early July. All of a sudden, she started to seem to be down. I asked her what was wrong and she claimed "nothing I'm fine". Well I didnt let it go at that because I knew something was bothering her. She then began to tell me that she wanted to leave and she didnt want to be married to me anymore. I immediately called my supervisor and told him I was leaving was leaving DC and going home. Now it was 10:30 pm and I was driving from DC to Augusta, GA.
I made it home around 7:00 am the next morning. I went up stairs and she was still sleaping. I gave her a kiss on the cheak, said hi and took a shower. I didnt want to bring up anything about our discussions the previous night in fear of sparking an argument. She was however pretty angry that I put my carear on the
line by leaving so abruptly to come home.
Later that day, I called her sister (who she tells everything to as they are very close) to find out what was going on. She suprisingly said she had no idea and it was the first she had heard of my wife wanting to leave, again. She was concerned and I expressed my concerns to her and explained that I think the side effects of the Lupron shot may be a contributing factor. She somewhat agreed but only claimed to have seen notable mood swings over the months. When I got off the phone with her she then called my wife to find out what was going on. When my wife got off the phone with her, she initiated the conversation. It didnt go so well. She claimed the shot has nothing to do with it. She doesnt love me, she feels nothing for me, doesnt want to be here. All of this mind you appeared to be the total opposite just the days, weeks, and months prior. And not must by her words but also her actions. She showed me love. She always has. She then immediately
packed her bags and the kids bags, called her sister and went to her house. She called her lawyer and she has now filed for divorce and I am supposed to served next week.
Now she thinks Im crazy for thinking the shot could affect her this way and is in complete denial. She also has a history of depression which she had recieved treatment for stopped about 3 years ago and lasted for about 4 years of treatment.
I have been researching a lot of websites with patient feedback concerning this drug. The side effects can be horrible and longlasting. I read something simular to my situation on one of the other sites but there was very little detail and advice on what to do. Does anyone have any suggestions? Or am I way off in even
thinking the Lupron shot could be the culprit?
The bottom line is, Im scared. I love my wife. I cant believe what is going on and I am totally confused and terrified that there is nothing I can do. She took the last shot in the middle of June. What can I do? I contacted her doctor, he blew me off and call her, she told him that she feels fine.... Our marriage counselor is in shock and disbelief. She even contacted her doctor after I informed her of my concerns with Lupron. He wont return her calls.... What can I do? I mentioned to my wife about websites like this one and she gets so angry, I dont know who she is anymore...
Thanks.
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Reply #1 10/03/09 2:58pm
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