badgirl29

What to do about the ex..

Posted on 09/28/09, 06:43 pm

My exgirlfriend keeps coming in and out of my life.. I love her alot and I know that she loves me but she is younger than me by 7 years and still has alot of living to do so to speak. I on the other hand have done my young and dumb years.. I want to settle down. Im done with the going back and forth. I want her back but not at the cost of my sanity. So here I am trying to figure out either to get her back or how to let her go. Also I've only been on meds since june and I can tell shes not sure how to deal with that. I'm different of course, I cant/dont drink anymore and i dont have like a milliom different moods per day now. She was here 3 weeks ago and we havent spoken since but she has talked to one of my best friends.. Which I think sucks. She should talk to me about the situation. I dont want to call her, this may sound stupid but shes the one that ended our relationship so I feel she should make the effort to fix things.

• Reply #1 10/19/09  2:35pm
  
  pixiewomyn
  I don't think anything you're saying "sounds stupid". You're being quite thoughtful and compassionate about her feelings, your feelings, and the situation. I think your choices are clear, as you stated, either take her back or let her go. When you think about the situation, which side gets more "play time" so to speak? Do you find yourself making excuses or defending her more than honestly believing she is the right person for you? Just some food for thought...as someone who did the on-again off-again thing with my ex for 5 years, I totally get it. For us, it didn't work out because I was the only one changing and willing to meet halfway. And, as I'm sure you know, you can't meet someone halfway when you're the only one doing the legwork.
  
  Good luck, Bad Girl :) You're heart and gut will tell you what to do.
  
  Mel
• Reply #2 10/30/09  3:08pm
  
  ridingthewa...
  I agree 100% with Mel. Listen to your heart, it will never steer your wrong. It sounds like you know what you have to do...... Good luck :)

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