samspenc

How long do you wait after a relationship breakup?

Posted on 11/18/08, 07:25 pm

I know this might be strange but I just wanted to know other peoples point of views on how long after a break up do you start dating again. I know it is all relevant to how long the relationship was, but I was with my last girlfriend 5 years and it took me a good 9 months before I could even imagine being with anyone else ( for her it was incredibly less I dont think my side of the bed was cold if you know wot I mean lol). I find alot of my friends seem to jump from one partner to another and I dont understand it.

But is it just me or are there others that think it is a sign of respect of the relationship.

Just a thought
xx

• Reply #1 11/19/08  12:09am
  
  racbc
  When the time is right you will know. Make sure you take time for yourself. A friend of mine says you take a month off for every year so you can heal.
• Reply #2 11/19/08  2:00am
  
  NotcrazyJoJo
  I agree with ((racbc)) You always need to take time for yourself and let your heart heal. Pamper yourself for awhile.
• Reply #3 11/19/08  4:40pm
  
  suzyhopes
  I think it depends on you, the depth of the relationship and how quickly you heal. I waited about 18 months after my breakup (6 years of an extremely emotionally rocky relationship) My wife waited about 1 month before starting to see me and we are both fully emotionally available now to each other and have been together 4 years.
• Reply #4 11/21/08  2:41am
  
  Kaino
  I think it all depends on where you are at emotionally and how strong the relationship bond with the person was. I was with someone for only a year and it took me about 7-8 months to be totally over her, yet I had a 14 year relationship and it only took me a few months, I think because the relationship had already "ended" emotionally years before it physically ended.
• Reply #5 11/21/08  5:15pm
  
  1234
  Well you're talking to someone who can only speculate here. But I agree with Kaino, everyone really. The new relationship is about you and the new lover, not anyone else.
  
  1234
• Reply #6 11/21/08  5:15pm
  
  1234
  Well you're talking to someone who can only speculate here. But I agree with Kaino, everyone really. The new relationship is about you and the new lover, not anyone else.
  
  1234
• Reply #7 11/23/08  9:21am
  
  Spunky5
  I agree totally with what Kaino said. It has been my experience.
• Reply #8 11/23/08  12:36pm
  
  JaneEgirl
  For me it has been different for each relationship. Once I pined away for 2 years and once I had my first date just 11 days after my lover broke up with me. Remember that some women who hate to be alone will start the new relationship before the old one is over! Everyone and every situation is different.
• Reply #9 12/17/08  2:59pm
  
  KindredSpirit
  Yes I agree with every thing that has been said hear: but, others thatd who jump from one relationship to another is really not all ways making good decisions. Time does heal and precious do not fade away; so be good to yourself.
• Reply #10 12/18/08  3:00pm
  
  BeastyGirl
  For me it usually took a good 6 months before I was ready to start dating after a break up. It didn't seem to matter if it was a longish relationship (5 yrs.) or a short one (6 mos.)
  
  The point is, everyone is different, and I think as long as we allow enough time to grieve the loss and heal from it, then there really are no hard and fast lines as to when you are "ready"
  
  Hope this was helpful. Good luck and have fun!
  
  BG

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