DawnieGirl

Ready for some advice

Posted on 08/04/09, 01:56 pm

My husband of 4 yrs just got back from deployment in November 08 and told me he doesn't love me anymore and left. He shacked up with another active duty member. I am pregnant and live in base housing. I have been holding out for him to come home (Lord only knows why) but now housing is trying to kick me out because we are no longer a "family" unit. I haven't turned him in yet because I know it will ruin his career, but I am getting to the point where I feel I have no choice. I told him to tell housing he still lives here so I don't end up on the street but I am not sure if he will. Does anybody have any good advice for me before this blows up?

• Reply #1 08/04/09  10:38pm
  
  tearful
  Sorry I don't...Because if you read some of the other replies I have made...I WOULD TURN HIM IN, oh yeah her too...
  
  Just think this...He is having his fun with another woman, he has no responsiblity what so ever,
  
  Ok your getting kicked out of housing because your husband is shacking up with another G.I.
  
  WHY PROTECT HIM & HIS CAREER? WHERE IS HE FOR YOU? WHERE IS HE FOR HIS BABY?
  
  Hmmmmmmmm....doesn't balance out to me.
  
  I really am sorry, I hope you can get this straightened out. I wish you all the luck in the world a nd lots of hugs.
• Reply #2 08/05/09  3:50pm
  
  srsnde
  Yeah, I agree with Tearful. You got to do what you got to do to protect you and your child. If that means giving his chain of command the skinny, do it.
  I am sorry for what you are going through. Right now, he is getting the best of both worlds without any reprecautions. JAG will provide you with means to start the divorce process, get BAH, child's support and alimony. I would see them before he does.
• Reply #3 08/12/09  11:31am
  
  Cappygirl
  I agree with tearful and srsnde, I would turn them both in! He has a responsibility to you and his child. If he won't do the right thing on his own, you will have to make him. He sounds like a super selfish guy.
  
  I'm sorry you are going through this and I hope everything works out for you.

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