how do I find lovePosted on 02/21/12, 10:37 am
so...... talk to me........ how do I find love again?
Reply #1 02/21/12 4:16pm
All of that is just physical, Karma. Get yourself a good vibrator, and love yourself...be nice to yourself...give yourself little treats along the way. Meet your own needs, and maybe when you're done with tx Mr. Right (or maybe Mr. Right Now) will come along. The greatest gift you can give yourself is a healthy YOU! I know I'm over simplyfying it, but when you've been married most of your adult life, it takes awhile to rediscover who you are and what you need to be happy. Give it some time.
Reply #2 02/21/12 4:18pm
By making friends.
Reply #3 02/21/12 6:01pm
Reply #4 02/21/12 6:02pm
in the meantime, get a vibrator.
Reply #5 02/21/12 7:33pm
i agree with all of the above. i have a body pillow i call my husband. he doesn't snore, come on to me in my sleep, have morning breathe. i'm enjoying thinking of what i want. i just had a moment of ecstasy last night (outside of bed) just dusting my collectibles and looking around not seeing chaos from someone else. not that things are more important than people, just being able to do my own thing.
Reply #6 02/21/12 8:59pm
I hear you S~ha. The freedom!!! I do love my "things".
Reply #7 02/22/12 10:42am
Karmah...this is the 1st time in my life I have lived alone...been a lone...i committed to the 1st year...to just be me...find me....no man...no bother.....
I am on year 2...i dabbled in the on line dating...was stupid...& disappointing.....i just try & enjoy the moments....enjoy myself....sure i get a feeling of wanting someone...sharing with someone...but I am okay in my own skin...I don't need need a man to complete me or make me feel whole...yeah i would like to come home from work & have someone to talk to...some one to rub my legs!!!!! But I am over~all happy with where I am at....
Reply #8 02/22/12 10:53am
I have chased men/relationships all of my adult life...just didn't feel complete without having a man in my life. After my last marriage fell apart, I changed that. I have dated off/on for the 13 years since my divorce, but I've found that I'm happier when I do things to please myself, rather than someone else. I do get lonely sometimes, and love the fantasy of having a supportive partner, but so far that's just been a fantasy...reality hasn't proven that to be a viable option (for me). It's even harder at "our" age b/c we all have our own baggage, and are set in our ways.
Reply #9 02/23/12 9:13am
maybe thats what I feel........ lonely! A vibrator doent give me near the pleasure that a man can............
Im missin the tender touch and the romance. Guess it will come when the time is right, but I do need love!
Reply #10 02/23/12 10:58am
Have you tried online dating? I just reopened my profile, for some strange reason....spring fever? lol.
Hell-o my friends. I would like to start a.....well not so much a dating site as a love site. I know how our lives are different than normal people. Sometimes I was wanna maybe flirt or talk. Lot of times we havent got the means of actually meeting someone face to face. And some of us dont feel like we are healthy enough or no longer have it in us for a relationship. Partly because we have been hurt so bad and partly because we feel we are too sick to start anyting. But Love is the best feeling