Wish I could give you a straight up answer, but unfortunately, there just isn't one. Porn obsession and porn addiction are things that are different in every man or woman.
For me, it was a selfish desire that started out as something fun and exciting, became an obsession, and finally turned in to a full-blown addiction. I was hooked into it hard and I didn't care who got hurt. It took me 15 years to finally put things back in to perspective and get myself "straight".
For what it's worth, it most likely has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with him. It is a selfish thing, something that he probably cannot control. There is no "off" button for this, other than the one he'll have to push himself. For me, it took almost losing my family before I came around and got help.
Now that I have it in control, it no longer controls me. I've learned to live with who I am, and I get by each day knwoing that it is up to me to decide whether or not to look. He is going to have to face reality sooner or later, and seek out some kind of help.
Wish I could be more encouraging, but the bottom line is he is going to have to choose to stop, just like he chose to start. No one, not even you, can force him to stop. It is all up to him to make the choice.
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WHY DOES HE????
Posted on 10/15/09, 10:10 pm
WELL I HAVE JUST HAD A BABY APRIL.21ST 2009. WELL WHEN I WAS PREGNANT I NOTICE MY HUSBAND WOULDNT TOUCH ME LIKE AT ALL. I KNOW FOR A FACT IT WASNT CUZ HE WAS SCARED TO HURT THE BABY CUZ IN THE PAST HE BRAGGED TO ME ABOUT HOW HIS OTHER BABY MOMMA AN HIM HAS SEX ALL THE TIME WHEN SHE WAS PREGNANT. I TALKED TO HIM OVER N OVER ABOUT IT. WELL I STARTED CATCHING HIM J/O LIKE AT LEASE 3 TO 4 TIMES A WEKK BUT IM PRETTY SURE HE DID IT EVERYDAY. HE STARTED LOOKIN AT PORN ON THE COMPUTER, AN ORDERING PORN ON T.V. IN ONE MONTH HE ORDER MOVIES TOTALING 80 DOLLAR JUST FOR THAT. I WAS SO HEART BROKEN. I TOLD HIM HOW IT HURT ME SO BAD WHEN I CAUGHT HIM J/O TO SOME CHICK ON THE COMPUTER. HE KEPT TELLING ME HE NEVER DO IT AGAIN BUT EVERYMONTH THE CABLE BIG WAS HIGHER. HE EVEN WOULDN'T GOT TO THE DOCTOR SOMETIME TO STAY HOME TO GET OFF I ALWAYS CAUGHT HIM. I TRIED TO HAVE SEX WITH HIM BUT HE WANT HAVING IT! NOW OUR SEX LIFE SUCK BAD. WE HAVE SEX LIKE ONCE EVERY COUPLE MONTHS OR SO. BUT ITS NOT ALL MY FAUGHT. I THINK I HOLD BACK FROM THE WAY HE TREATED ME WHEN I WAS PREGNANT. BUT HE STILL LOOKS AT PORN ON THE COMPUTER AND ORDERS MOVIES. I FELL HE JUST DONT CARE. HE RATHER ME JUST GET HIM OFF AN THATS IT! SO MY QUESTION IS IF ANYONE KNOWS OR HAS ANY IDEA WHY THIS ALL IS HAPPENING????
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Reply #1 10/16/09 2:56pm
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Reply #2 10/16/09 3:24pm
this is really a terrible situation and my heart goes out to you. I have had some similar difficult times w/ MB on similar issues. -
Reply #3 10/18/09 1:58pm
THANKS SCBOB. THE ONLY THING IS THAT HE HAS TO WANT HELP TO GET HELP. HE ALWAYS SAYS THAT ALL ME DO IT AND IT ISNT A PROBLEM.HES IN DENIEL. BIG TIME. BUT THANKS FOR U COMMENTS I UNDERSTAND IT A LITTLE BETTER NOW!
THANKS FOR CARING LEFTWING. -
Reply #4 10/18/09 3:33pm
You are welcome. If I can help in any way, please let me know. If nothing else, I can listen!
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