Seth123

How safe is to share blue films and sexy internet photos with spouse

Posted on 10/11/09, 03:57 am

When we do intercourse, I share some blue films or sexy photos with my spouse and we enjoy the sex. But i have a fear in my mind that how safe is to share sexy movies and photos with her? I have a fear that she maight get attracted towords another handsome looking guys than me and it may be a conflict in our healty relations. Am I thinking right? Can any married women help me in understanging women's psychology on this? I have asked her frankly, but she told me that its never possible. But I have doubt about natural feeling about sex. So I am thinking that is it the correct way of making our sex hot? I believe married women can advice me on this topic very well..

• Reply #1 10/15/09  12:37pm
  
  SCBob
  Hi Seth,
  I'm not a married woman, but I'd like to share something about the films and photos, if I may.
  Being a former porn addict, my first advice is to be careful. I'm not one to lecture anyone about what is right or wrong, and my former addiction was self-made, so I hold only myself responsible for what I did.
  Sexy pictures and movies can often enhance or "spice up" a relationship, but only if both parties are interested in it. If this is something that you both like to do, then I would advise you to be cautious to keep what you look at and watch in perspective to what it is. Images like this are designed to stimulate us, to produce a sexual response. If she is looking at other men, and you are looking at other women, and that is the basis for your arousal, then it is entirely possible for her to be attracted to that type of man. It can affect everything the two of you do sexually, as it presents you both with unrealistc expectations. Believe it or not, no one is built that way naturally, and you cannot duplicate everything you see, regardless of how much you try to.
  Healthy sex is all about your relationship with one another, without any outside influences. How you relate to one another sexually should be stimulated by how you view her, and how she views you. If you stimulate one another, why introduce outside influences into the process?
  
  Whatever you decide to do, please use caution and proceed carefully. Pornography can be exciting in the beginning, but it can also create a lot of problems later on. Good luck!
• Reply #2 10/15/09  6:49pm
  
  mikes16
  as a married man for 15 years, i still barely understand the mind of a woman.. but pretend i do for her sake. :) i do know that guys are more visual and girls more feeling oriented. Example when I watch porn with my wife she always says that she does not like the meaningless intercourse scenes but prefers story lines and emotions. As far as your wife she wont fall for the actors but may fall for the scenes and what is being done...so you may want to always communicate to her about fantasies to ensure you are fullfilling them as best you can together.
  
  I will let you know when I figure out the other 98% of it.
• Reply #3 10/26/09  12:33pm
  
  sassybp
  As a woman that watches porn with and without my husband I can honestly say that I don't expect him to look like that. But there are some sex scenes I would like to try. I love watching the sex I don't care about the emotion. I save the emotion for my hubby

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