Discussion Topic
women wanting more sex then their hubbys
Posted on 07/15/08, 04:55 pm
hum so it sounds like around here the women seem to want sex more then their hubby, am i hearing right? i hope so because i thought it was me. i've actually make myself crazy sometimes, what's wrong with me or has he just taken care of hiself because he doesn't want to go through the whole forplay etc... i mean i get the sex but sometimes it's like i'm a burden. does anyone elese relate?????? LUV500SL
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Reply #31 10/13/08 1:14pm
I GOT REJECTED FOR THE FIRST TIME IN MY LIFE. :( IT HURT DEEPLY AND HAS SCARRED ME FOR LIFE ESPECIALLY BECAUSE I PUT EXTRA EFFORT INTO BEING SEXY. I HAD THE GARTERS AND THE THONG AND THE WHOLD DAMN THANG GOING AND HE SAID NO. I CRIED. I TOLD HIM I WAS NOT GOING TO BE REJECTED AGAIN AND THE NEXT TIME HE WOULD HAVE TO COME TO ME. IT'S BEEN SIX WEEKS. I WAS AT THE POINT OF NO RETURN AND BEGAN TO HAVE IMPURE THOUGHTS. I WENT TO HIM AND THIS IS WHAT HE SAID: "YOUR WHOLE WORLD REVOLVES AROUND SEX!! AND YOU LIED! YOU SAID YOU WERE GONNA WAIT UNTIL I CAME TO YOU!" HOW LONG WAS HE GOING TO MAKE ME WAIT? I'M DEPRESSED AND I DON'T CARE ANYMORE. BECAUSE I BROUGHT UP SEX HE TOLD ME TO GO FIND ANOTHER MAN TO BITCH AT BECAUSE HE WAS SICK OF IT. :( I AM 34 YEARS OLD AND BIPOLAR AND I CAN'T HELP MY SEX DRIVE BUT HE RESENTS IT. I HAVEN'T EVEN BEEN TOUCHED BY HIM IN SIX WEEKS. I'M HURT AND REJECTED AND I JUST DON'T CARE ANYMORE. :( -
Reply #32 10/27/08 1:37pm
My says that he had too much sex when he was younger and that is why he is not that interested in it. Also he says I am not adventerious enough for him. Ha if ever I try to initate something new he totally blows me off.
I have to practially beg for sex. Begging does not look on me LOL! -
Reply #33 10/29/08 9:57pm
i am the one right now who wants it a lot and currently for some reason i'm on rations...which does nothing for my self esteem...he doesn't think about it at all...he is happy with a kiss on the lips and that's it...i wish i had a hubby who wanted just as much as i do... -
Reply #34 10/30/08 11:25am
WELL, HUBBY AND I HAVE FOUND OUT THE REASON. HE WENT TO THERAPY WITH ME AND FOUND OUT HE HAS DEPRESSION. WE'RE UNDER A LOT OF FINANCIAL STRESS, ETC. SO I CAN UNDERSTAND WHY. HE IS GOINT TO THE PDOC ON NOV. 5TH..THANK GOD! BTW....WE FINALLY MADE LOVE. DON'T KNOW WHAT THE DIFFERENCE WAS THIS TIME BUT WE DID AND IT LASTED ALL OF THIRTY SECONDS LOL, BUT WHAT DO YOU EXPECT FROM A MAN GOING TWO MONTHS? I WAS GRATEFUL FOR THAT. HE KNOWS HE OWES ME BIG TIME. AND I'M GONNA GET IT!!!! -
Reply #35 10/31/08 11:45am
Well I am glad he went to the doctor and now he can get some help..And you can get some!!!!! -
Reply #36 10/31/08 5:44pm
AND I HAVE.........TWO NIGHTS IN A ROW DAHLIN'!!!! NOT RUBBING IT IN OR NOTHING.........WELL, THERE IS SOME RUBBING INVOLVED ROFLMAO!!!!! -
Reply #37 11/11/08 7:46pm
Yes i'm there too. My husband turns me down all the time he says he doesn't want to that's usually the excuse i get. But i thought men always wanted it. -
Reply #38 11/26/08 9:31am
As a guy who had a short stint with a low libido (approximately 2-3 months), I might be able to offer an idea. I seriously doubt this is the reason for all men's lack of interest, but considering how easily I lost mine, I think this might be worth your investigation. A possible cause is addiction.
I've struggled with a specific, very uncommon (or under-diagnosed) addiction for the better part of my life. When I was at my worst in the addiction, I had virtually no desire for sex. Sex was good, but it slowly begain to not satisfy me like feeding my addiction did. Pretty soon, I was avoiding my wife, going to bed early so I could get up early (she always slept in) so I could have more time to myself feeding my addiction.
You ladies on this board who have this issue with your SO might want to think about whether he's addicted to anything... alcohol, porn, video games, sports, work, etc. He may not be addicted to anything, but I know when a person is addicted, his/her body actually begins to think that nothing else is fun, nothing else is worth doing, only that one thing the body now craves.. its addiction.
Let me again say that I think there may be other causes for a low libido, but I can only speak to my own experience. -
Reply #39 12/03/08 8:37am
hi i am new to this group. i want it more thn my hubby latly. i have never been like this never. my sex drives gone crazy i luv it. who need the gym.i am wearing him out. lol. glad i am not the only one.cant figure out why but who cares. must be summut to do with me age. what do u do when u get turned down though. do it yourself but not the same.i think i am gonna like it here jut what i need . tc all of u -
Reply #40 12/03/08 2:36pm
When one partner has a significantly stronger drive than the other .. negotiation and communication are key .. to resolving differences .. Trying to find middle ground is always better .. than having one partner have their desires met, while the other partner goes wanting ..
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