I do understand your thoughts and discovery of other people!! yes its normal of others to be so rude!!
When out and about with your Son, when they stare at you and your son, stare back and give them a big hello and smile. that embarsses them, I did that and it worked. Another good one is show the world that your son is okay they have the problems. Beans was big breasted and with her autism actions, when we were in the mall the boys would stare and stare, that made me so upset, cause they were down right rude, when we visited with her neuroglical doctor, I would tell him all of our misfortunes, I told him, I feel like taking a water bottle and squirt the people in the eyes, they were so rude! I checked into breast reduction for her, got her doctors to sign that the operation would be a benifit for her, oh, Beans was so happy, when the operation was over. Her doctor was so proud of her, and he removed a mole that was cancerous, so we had a good outcome. Both of you HOLD your heads HIGH and be who you are!! hugs deb and beans
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Do you think ?
Posted on 09/01/08, 05:07 am
I discoverd that even thought people will stare at a child who has autistic tendancies, and appears to be behaving outside of the 'norm ' , its even harder when that child is older. My son is now 14 and there seems to be less understanding because he is bigger, than when he was younger.......Not sure if this makes sense, sorry if it doesnt x
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Reply #1 09/01/08 8:25am
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Reply #2 09/05/08 9:36pm
I think you have something there. My daughter is only 8 but she looks like she is 12 and it does make things worse. People want her to act 12 and she can't.
Deb, How old was Beans when you did that? I think my K is in the same boat. I can't get her to ware a bra or even a tank top under her shirt because of sensory issues. -
Reply #3 09/07/08 4:01pm
Zophie i have that same problem i was only about 12 people thought i was 16-17. So they speek to me like that. i find it hard because i cant understand them properly.
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Reply #4 09/27/08 2:15am
This is because in our culture, it's "ok" for children to be a little "odd" or act "wierd". They are not seen differently because they are lining things up or staring at something, or throwing a tantrum. This is "normal" childhood behavior. But, if your 14 year old is throwing a tantrum or doing something that is considered "odd" in our culture, it is the parent's fault. Believe it or not, A LOT of people still do not know what autism is. -
Reply #5 12/20/08 8:03am
I know it really pisses me off when I am out with my 16 year old brother and they stare at him. I have to admit most times I cannot hold my tongue. I have given a good many tongue lashing! I try and not do that, but my heart just cannot take it. It's not fair how people treat children with Autism. I think it's because they do not understand it and people are scared of what they do not understand! I have zero tolerance for people like that. I am not saying to do what I do, but that is just my nature.
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Reply #6 04/03/09 1:45pm
MY DAUGHTER IS 6 VERY TALL DUE TO HER DAD AND ME WE ARE TALL I LIKE TO THINK MAYBE PEOPLE WONT PICK ON HER SO MUCH SINCE SHE WILL BE TALL AND SHE IS VERY BEAUTIFUL BUT AT THE SAME TIME I DONT WANT HER TO BE VULNERBLE TO PREDATURE'S SHE IS HIGH FUNTIONING, IT DOES BECOME OBVIOUS NOW WHEN SHE GETS EXCITED WITH HER HAND TREMORS KICKS INTO HIGH GEAR FOR US WE SEE HOW BEFORE SHE WAS VERY CUTE NOW IT MAKES HER STAND OUT.PEOPLE WILL ALWAYS BE RUDE IM JUST TRYING TO HELP HER LIVE AS NORMAL AS LIFE CAN BE THEN I THINK WHO IS NORMAL THESE DAYS...WE ARE ALL DIFFRENT...BEING DIFFRENT SHOULDNT BE BAD. -
Reply #7 04/22/09 10:40pm
it makes sense trust me. my son is 12 and is starting to go thru puberty. so his hormones are going crazy and im having a little harder time handeling him out in public and people stare all the time. i just turn around and hand them a card i have to make them shut up. i just got tired of having to turn around and explaining myself to a complete ignorant stranger who thinks their kids are well behaved and my kid has problems. so yes i understand. im with you. -
Reply #8 07/24/09 9:56am
i totally agree , i do not have a child who has autism however i am a nursery nurse , i work with children who have autism and when we go out places people can be so very rude and ignorant ....really peeves me off !
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