Someone had shared this with me, so I thought I could share it with you. Please know, the only reason I am is because I am pretty much going through what this whole thing is about, and I wish it was shared with me sooner. Even though, to be honest with all of you, I am scared I will continue being in the past. It seems like no matter how I try to let it go, there is someone right there bringing it back up. Do I get rid of that person, even if she means the world to me?! Part of me says, 'hell yeah, I should.' Are you going through the same thing?! I really could use some advice. Who knows, maybe we can help one another. I know I am tired of being stuck, and it is time I move forward. Boy, it sounds good typing it, but will I do it. I really hope so. It hurts too much to think about the past, and what I have been through, but I've made it this far.
Anyway, I hope you understand why I wanted to share it with you guys. I am reaching out for help, and support. If you allow me; I will be there for you, and support you as well.

Thanks for taking the time to read this,
Lana




Getting Past Your Past, Is It Really Possible?



Wonderful memories, regrets, mistakes, learning experiences, fun, unforgettable peopleâ?¦. All these and more, make up our past.

â??Oh, get over itâ??, â??Let it goâ??, â??move onâ??â?¦..
Self-help books mention this; may be your friends/loved ones have said it. However, anyone who has a â??burdened pastâ??, know how difficult it is.

May be you are still holding on hoping it would last....
May be you are in denial about everything that went wrong...
Just may be..... you were too late ...
..............

Anger, hatred, bitterness, resentments and thoughts of revenge are heavy weights that slow a person down. Allowed to fester, these negative feelings can consume increasingly larger portions of your life. You realize that to be healthy, productive, and successful, you can't stay stuck in it either. So what do you do about it?

1. The past is only alive if you keep it alive
Having said that, I am fully aware that no one is capable of just snapping fingers and erasing the past. Only the characters in the Heroes TV series can do that!
However, no matter what your past burdens are, you need to be able to walk away from them, instead of letting them control your present. Take the lesson you learnt, and learn not to do it again. What happens in the past is exactly that, passed, and you must learn to live for now.

2. Donâ??t shackle yourself with regret.
We have regrets, feelings of guilt, wishing or thinking we should have done this or that differently. I am sure that you have a list of "should of's" and "could of's"; you may think that if you acted differently or made another choice, that somehow situations might have turned out better. That could be true, but nothing can change the past.
Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending.~ Anonymous
3. Appreciate yourself as a tested survivor
Think of all of the times that you have struggled and pulled through! For some of us it is easier to see it as the end and give up, however that goes against pretty much everything that we have stood for up until now. You see, survival is a natural instinct and the reality that you are still here and still alive shows that you have this natural instinct.

4. The future CAN be better than the past
When your past seems overwhelming the inner voice says, "I've failed then so I'll fail now," or equivalent. Being a pessimist doesn't fetch you anything. It only looks good & glamorous only in movies!

Learn from the past but donâ??t assume that your past automatically equals your future. Fill this life with anticipation. Expect great things will happen to you!
You canâ??t have a better tomorrow if you are thinking about yesterday all the time.~Charles F.Kettering
Getting past your past, Is it really possible?
The past is a tricky thing. It has shaped you; it has made you who you are today. If it was difficult or painful, you can't just cut yourself off from it. Some scars remain for life. I donâ??t think that we really "get over" our past. (Just my way of thinking. You are free to disagree or have a different opinion. There is a reason why this post is filed under â?? Think tank)
To me, â??getting over itâ?? doesn't mean forgetting the experience. It simply means going through the process of dealing with the situation, to the point where it can no longer create a block or problem for me.
The question is, 'do you love yourself enough to just let it go?'

Finallyâ?¦No matter what has gone before, your future and how you feel about it will be a direct result of what you do from now on. It is being shaped right now, moment by moment, as the consequences of your desires, thoughts, dreams, actions, and words begin to crystallize.