danih

Say Something NICE!!!

Posted on 06/08/09, 09:53 pm

... about yourself.

I realized something today, and that is that I am starting to get down on myself again. My inner voice has been getting increasingly critical, derogatory, demanding and demeaning. I mean, I would never insist that anyone else adhere to the standards of perfection that I impose upon myself! So why am I so hard on myself?


Therefore I am instigating the "say somthing nice about yourself" thread. Once you have opened this, you MUST say something really, truly and genuinely KIND to or about yourself. It doesn't matter if you believe it or not, just throw it out there. (and if you don't believe it, reread it repeatedly until you do!)

• Reply #1 06/08/09  9:53pm
  
  danih
  I am a wonderful mother to my son.
• Reply #2 06/08/09  11:13pm
  
  ImpulsiveRE...
  I am a compassionate person.
• Reply #3 06/09/09  12:57am
  
  justonegoodday
  why is this so hard?
• Reply #4 06/09/09  3:59am
  
  dragonlady66
  I am trustworthy and loyal
• Reply #5 06/09/09  2:45pm
  
  ImpulsiveRE...
  It's hard because you(we) don't believe it. But that's why we're saying it...to try and reinforce it, even if we DON'T believe it.
  
  I'm creative.
• Reply #6 06/09/09  3:29pm
  
  TroubledAngel
  I have a good, caring heart : ]
• Reply #7 06/10/09  7:27pm
  
  danih
  Exactly right, Impulsive.
  
  I am a loving and caring person.
• Reply #8 06/11/09  12:18am
  
  recycling
  I cannot think of something truly & genuinely about myself. I see what others in the group have written, & I tell myself that I wish I could write something, anything, good about myself, & if I were to write something down then I'd be lying to all of you & myself?????????????????
• Reply #9 06/11/09  12:28am
  
  danih
  Everyone has something good, something beautiful about them.
  
  Have you considered the possibility that some of the bad things that you think about yourself might be lies?
  
  Perhaps you can't see the truth because you believe the lies. :-) I bet I can find something nice to say about you and then your homework will be to repeat it over and over to yourself until you believe it.
  
  (Oh yeah! I am now allowed to assign homework. I forgot to mention that new rule that I just made up about 30 seconds ago :-D)
• Reply #10 06/11/09  12:43am
  
  danih
  Okay Recycling, you asked for it!
  
  I found this in one of your journal entries:
  
  "I have found so many Beatiful, Precious, Trusting friends on here (DS)"
  
  So one nice thing to say about you is that you genuinely care about other people, see the good in them, and treasure them. This is such a wonderful, positive thing! You look outside of yourself and care about others. Right now, however, I am asking you to go look in the mirror and realize that YOU ARE A PERSON TOO and deserve love and kindness as much as the people around you do. Take the words that you easily apply to others and apply them to yourself. Write the words
  
  BEAUTIFUL
  PRECIOUS
  TRUSTING
  
  on your bathroom mirror in dry erase marker or better yet sharpie marker (it's harder to erase!) and then tell yourself that you are all of the above every time that you are in the bathroom. Make eye contact with yourself in the mirror and tell yourself that you are beautiful, trusting, and 100% precious!!! They are NOT lies; they are the TRUTH and you simply have to accept and believe them.
  

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