poohscorner

grieving over loved ones

Posted on 05/24/08, 11:01 am

time doesn't take the pain away

• Reply #1 05/27/08  4:49pm
  
  mssunshine
  You are so right. I get tired of hearing you just have to give it time. Its been almost 16 months and it still hurts pretty damn bad.
• Reply #2 09/01/08  7:43pm
  
  nancy7161
  No but it does lessen in intensity. I speak from the heart of a young girl who at 21 lost her dad to suicide. I thought I would die, but I didn't. After many years it does lessen and just becomes a part of you, our life experience. I stillmmiss him, especially since my mom died 9 months ago. I sometimes find it hard now to believe it will get better. I have good phases and phases that are awful, painful. But I beleive in time it will lessen. But a long time.................God does give is the gift of time, even if this world doesn't get it.
• Reply #3 09/02/08  9:42pm
  
  sunnyc
  How right you are I loss my only child (Son ) to Murder 17 yrs ago and for me the pain will never end untill I 'm with him
  
• Reply #4 01/15/09  7:58pm
  
  pinkybear
  Time does not always heal. It has been 17 months since I lost my Beloved Mom and somedays I only feel 10% better.....
• Reply #5 01/16/09  2:24pm
  
  ABrow
  it has been 5 years since my mom passed and it still hurts. some things still trigger it and it kills me inside.
• Reply #6 02/11/09  10:24pm
  
  rachele70nj
  I think the tears lesson in intensity but I still miss and grieve mom more than ever, nearly a year and a half now.
• Reply #7 02/15/09  4:36pm
  
  sensitivesoul
  Me to, am just over the 2 year mark...3 years in october and am in as much if not more pain then ever now.Where has time gone?
  
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• Reply #8 02/21/09  10:38pm
  
  rachele70nj
  Hi Soul and everyone. I hit 18 months and I have not stopped crying past week. I miss my mom more than words can describe. The reality of her death is so painful to bare. The knowing I cannot reach her the way I used to and struggling to find her, yet feeling so empty.
• Reply #9 02/25/09  3:32pm
  
  sensitivesoul
  You took the words right out of my mouth Rachele
  
  Hugs
  x
• Reply #10 03/01/09  3:15am
  
  rachele70nj
  I tend to think that up to and including the first year, is filled with shock, anger, dibelief and deep sadness. Then, the second year comes and reality sets in that our loved ones are NEVER coming back here to us again. So, we are left with the memories and what to do with those memories and how to cope with the feelings, around the memories of what was and is now, changed forever. They are no longer the presecence force that represented love, support, friendship, family in our lives anymore. We are shattered and have to find a way to pick up the pieces of our shattered hearts and souls.

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