hopeisalive

Healing part 2

Posted on 02/26/09, 07:36 pm

We must stop living in the past. We can not go forward if we keep looking backwards. We must choose one direction or the other.

• Reply #1 02/28/09  9:53pm
  
  Flybirds
  That's true, how though do we get the negative thoughts out of our minds if we keep on thinking about them? I know to turn things over to God, but some things are hard to let go. Does some healing take longer then others?
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
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• Reply #2 03/06/09  2:01pm
  
  rrowley
  Flybirds, we must cast down any negative thoughts within 3 seconds and replace them with God's Word in our minds. If we do not do this we allow the negative thoughts to take root and grow which is what the enemy uses to try to destroy us.
• Reply #3 03/06/09  9:12pm
  
  hope25
  you are right and it isnt real easy, I have had trouble with that. and rrowley we definately cannot contain those thoughts or they will affect us, God has given us the authority, thankyou for reminding me!
• Reply #4 03/07/09  1:00pm
  
  lujean
  sec. Corinthians 10;5 ' We take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ 'NIV I Pray that I can think about this verse before I let negative thoughts in thanks for reminding me about this
• Reply #5 03/21/09  11:06am
  
  darlamyangel
  sometimes it does take time to be able to get past hurts. Some are bigger than others. Last summer my husband left me for a much younger woman. I was so hurt and shocked at the time. I'd had no idea he felt the way he did. He said he loved me, but wasn't in love with me anymore.
  
  I've done a lot of soul searching as I've progressed into the person I'm learning to be. We married rather young and now I'm living alone for the first time in my life. I'd reached a point in my life where I was just sitting around doing absolutely nothing!
  
  Now, I'm in my own apt, I'm taking Karate, I babysit, I go to the Y to work out 5 mornings a week. And this past week, I've started volunteering at a local nursing home.
  
  I do talk to my stbx, who moved to another state. We talk about three times a week. He calls me in the eveings on his lunch break at work. We've both come far in this part of our lives. We are still friends and will always be so. For a long time I thought I hated the girl he left me for. I wouldn't even speak her name. I held that resentment around me like a cloak. I've started to let go of that and have even talked to her several times on the phone.
  
  I've learned that the marriage was over before this girl came into the picture. What she gave my stbx was a place to go. He never prior to when he did because he felt he had nowhere to go. Now, he's planning on marrying this girl, but I get the impression that he's under pressure there. I know he isn't happy. He misses his life here. I know he misses the kids and grandkids.
  
  However, I no longer gloat over his unhappiness. I have a better understanding of what happened and am able to still be best friends with him. I really can't believe just how far I've come since last summer! I do still miss him and look forward to his calls. But, I don't sit at home waiting for them either!
  
  I guess what I'm getting at is that forgivness can happen. You just have to let it happen. Sometimes it takes longer and more soul searching. But, we also have to want to let it happen. I am a much happier person today than I was even a month ago. It's a wonderful feeling when you can let go of those hurts, when you can get past them and go on with your life.
• Reply #6 03/26/09  12:13am
  
  kitkat101
  sometimes its hard to move forward.. but in the end, it is worth it. im trying to stop living in the past
• Reply #7 07/26/09  8:46pm
  
  Ravin714
  What about things you HAVE to look at daily that bring the pain back?
  I have thrown away, destroyed, cleaned until I am ready to drop but...
  Rooms hold memories and moving is not an option..
  any sugesstions??
• Reply #8 09/01/09  4:52pm
  
  specialistwife
  can you think of ANY GOOD things that comes from these items or rooms? Or mabe change rooms Just an idea.
• Reply #9 09/01/09  5:20pm
  
  Ravin714
  I have changed rooms 3 times...
  It is all within me, it isn't the rooms.
  have to keep on trying to change thinking to ONLY positive and
  if negative does come try & find a Positive from it.
  I was flooding myself though too by trying to stay in there
  especially to sleep and any
  good Psychiatrist or Psychologist will say that is a HUGE No No!!
  baby steps and only Baby steps

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