MadisonZeke

No one wants to see me.

Posted on 10/26/09, 03:01 am

I'm all alone and it's driving me insane. I live with the man that I'm to be marrying, but done of my friends are ever around. I never hear from any of them most of the time and it's really lonely here in Bend. I wish I could be legal to drive and then I could go see them all, but that's not going to happen soon. I just want someone to hang out with and joke around with.

• Reply #1 10/27/09  5:25pm
  
  rainnbo
  Madison,
  I know how you feel. Sometimes (since I've been laid off) I find that I'm playing Facebook games all day. Currently I'm trying to send at least one short email to 3 friends a day that will require some kind of response. I'm being creative about it - like "What are we all planning for Halloween?" or "Do you want to get together and have a dinner exchange?"
  A dinner exchange would be where (say you have 4 couples including you and your bf or 4 or 6 friends-or how many ever you want to include- but just say...) Each week, 2 couples cook and the other 2 go to one of the homes for dinner and then you all switch. On the 3rd week, all 4 couples cook something and you all meet at one persons house. If you did it with single friends - It might be better to let 2 single friends each cook something or pick something up and one of them bring it to the house where you all are meeting...
  Anyway, it could be anything that most of you guys would all like. DVD night, video game, football etc...
  
  I don't know if this is helpful, but I've been trying and thought it was an idea. The emails I send each day don't always include asking them to do things, but I try to focus on asking about them. My best friend was really honest with me one day and said it was okay for me to talk all about me with him, but to tone it down a bit with everyone else. I think my depression and the details kind of scare other people. They think I'm going to have a breakdown or something right then and there.
  
  I'm trying it.... seems to be going okay. :) If you try it, will you let me know how it works for you?
• Reply #2 10/27/09  5:29pm
  
  rainnbo
  Madison,
  I forgot to take in how old you are... DVD Night or Video Game night, football or something else might be best for you guys. I'm not sure if your friends have their own places, but if not, it would be cool because YOU do. You could host these things. Serve snacks instead of dinner. Ask people to bring something small depending on how many people are coming. But you could "label it" it a certain "night" Like: DVD NIGHT or VIDEO GAME COMPETITION NIGHT....
  Still, not sure if this helps you at all. I really want to help.

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