Families of SOs Community Group
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is it a bad idea in general? i dont know....it is hard to get people to work together and i can see the most conflict coming from within...i would not live in a closed community myself, but maybe some can.
you are suspicious when someone refers to themselves as survivors oneofthem? seems you automatically have an opinion on anyone who says they have been abused...there are many survivors right here on this page, who may not mind being a part of a community like that...have a better word? lets hear it!
I'm not sure why survivors would want to live in this community, honestly. What motivation would a victim of sexual abuse have for joining a commune in the middle of nowhere?
It just seems, as oneofthem said, that it would be a setting ripe for distrust and false allegations, and too far from legal authorities to sort things out with any degree of rationality.
I also agree that I'm not sure why the first 15 members would be the ones to determine the rules/policies (unless I'm reading that wrong). It would seem like anybody joining the community at any time should have equal say.
Anyway, a set-up like this wouldn't work for our family, anyway, because we want our children to have as normal a life as possible.
But I'm not sure how desirable it is. We're seeing more and more people on these lists, an increasing number of non-violent offenses that their neighbors probably honestly wouldn't see as particularly horrific or dangerous. It seems like staying in the community and living your life and showing that the "SO" label is becoming increasingly meaningless as they grow and grow these lists could be the better way to go.
I do realize that a lot of people have huge problems with residency restrictions. But, once you are off parole/probation and able to leave the state you are in, there are a number of states that don't have state-wide residency restrictions, and localities within those states that have no restrictions. I think most people would be better off relocating to one of those states than relocating to an experimental community where it sounds like things could go very wrong very quickly.
If the idea is for real, I do appreciate the sentiment behind it, and it could work if a few families are really committed. I would be very, very suspicious, though, on both sides.