Posted this on another discussion but am really wondering....Posted on 08/06/12, 06:48 pm
My step-dad did this after my mother died, it actually broke his heart and I had an uncle who actually did this by making poor choices by drinking and driving.
I didn't use to think this is possible but the longer my estrangment goes on the more I'm beginning to believe it's actually possible.
What are your thoughts?
Reply #1 08/07/12 1:05am
For sure. My family had some family friends that when the husband passed away within a few months, the wife who was perfectly healthy also passed away. She just could not deal with the stress of his loss and sort of gave up on everything, eating, living...doing anything. Some I'm sure like your uncle become very reckless...others sadly commit suicide.
I know for a fact that my blood pressure has gone up, I'm not getting enough sleep and not eating right.
We all need to realize that there are other people in our lives, friends and family who still need and want us around. I know that I need to start taking better care of myself for those reasons...we all should. This is all new for me, but so many in these groups who have been dealing with this for years all have told me that it gets easier to deal with...not better really, just easier. I'm hoping that's true.
Reply #2 08/07/12 8:22am
Ising..such an intense question you have asked. Grieving is so personal. The grief experts I suppose know all of the stages a person goes through..yet we are all such individuals, only God knows how to handle our own personal grief. For this grief to be so great that it would consume me to death?? I always ask God to help me NOT get that bad, or that my pain never gets that deep. He protects my heart from getting to that stage and I am very grateful to God for protecting my heart from getting to that stage.
My relationship with God has become more intense and stronger through all of this. I have put my relationship with God above all other relationships and I know that He will work this all out for me.
God knows the depths of my pain over this estrangement..and He has protected me from letting grief take over to the degree that this grief would consume me to death. Without God in my life, and my relationship with God..yes, it would be easy to succumb. Praise God..He has been my strength, and He has given me a supernatural ability to carry on. That's where I am right now.
Estrangement makes it difficult to talk about with family, friends, neighbors and church members. Christians are NOT immune to broken families. Talk about your experiences with those who know how you feel and get positive support through your Christian faith...."In these last days difficult times will come, for men will be lovers of self...disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy, unloving...." (2 Tim 3:2) "O God and Heavenly Father, Grant to us the serenity of mind to accept