confusednana

Praise the Lord!! It is over, I have my son and his family back

Posted on 09/26/11, 01:36 am

Sadly it took my mother getting hurt, she broke her arm on Aug. 31st. She was going up and down so much my sister contacted him so he could come see her. On the 13th I received a call from him, he told me they were so sorry for all the hurt they had caused. They wanted to reconcile. We met that night and hugged for the first time in almost 3 yrs right in front of my mom, in her hospital room. We talked for 2 hours that night and spent the rest of the week together, love my beautiful, smart, cutie pie grandson too.

Sadly one week later I lost my mom. But she was a believer and she knows we are together again. Sept. 20th was her 64th Anniversary, so we all said she just wanted to go dancing with our dad on their anniversary.

Don't ever give up, just keep telling God "I will praise you with them in my life and I will praise you with them not in my life". Keep God as the focus, not the Estranged kid.

Hugs to you all! Never give up!!

• Reply #1 09/26/11  3:28am
  
  Rachel100
  Dear Confusednana, I'm so sorry for the loss of your mother. It's nice to know she was a believer. I like how you said she just wanted to dance with her husband on their 64th anniversary!
  
  Thank you for reminding us to praise God with our EC's in our lives and with our EC's not in our lives. I needed the reminder.
  
  How great that you now have your son and his family back! Praise The Lord!
  
  Sending you hugs...
• Reply #2 09/26/11  10:36am
  
  GuelsMom
  confusednana.....PRAISE GOD!!! I am SO happy for you! So many blessings in this yet sad event of losing your mom. There is sadness in not seeing your mom again but it sounds like she must have been the kind of mom that left you with a lot of wonderful memories to hold onto until you see her again in heaven - dancing with your dad.
  
  I love your message of living with estrangement - "to continue praising God with them in our lives or without them in our lives and to keep God as the focus in all things good and bad. Our estranged kids will always be a part of our hearts and minds but no one, including our kids, our spouses, nor our parents should be the focus and center of our thoughts or the decision maker for doing right or wrong.
• Reply #3 09/26/11  10:40am
  
  GuelsMom
  Oooop! I forgot to say how happy I am that God used the death of your mother to bring new life to the relationship with your son.
  
  Also, I have heard over and over again that funerals are for the living and I know when my mom died, her one request was that the message of the sermon was "salvation in Christ." You could see quite a few people squirming in their seats when our pastor was done. Loved it!
• Reply #4 09/26/11  12:31pm
  
  BlazeStar18
  Confused...no more! Congrats on your new start with your family. Condolences in regards to your Mom. Sometimes it takes events such as this to wake someone up. The knowledge of knowing someone is leaving and the awakening of your son's heart. Sounds like the walls came tumbling down, and his heart is no longer harden!
  
  I am Thanking the Lord with you and pray that he comforts you during the loss of your Mom. I'm sure that was one of your Mom's prayers to have you reconciled with your son. Thanks for sharing this with us. It gives us hope of God's Love for us and our children.
  
  Please keep posting to us of how your relationship progresses. We can learn from you and how God is healing this situation.
  
  Hugs to you,
  Pearl
• Reply #5 09/28/11  11:59pm
  
  PrayinginNY
  God is so good! I'm sorry about your Mom that's very hard to deal with. But Praise the Lord she is in His presence today. "Absent from the body, present with the Lord"
  
  Romans 8:28 ....All things work for the good to those who love the Lord
  
  Enjoy your new found family, may God Bless you all.
• Reply #6 08/02/12  6:19am
  
  GuelsMom
  Bumped up another resolution at the hand of God.
• Reply #7 08/02/12  3:27pm
  
  sadmad11
  Love this! It hasn't been three years in my situation..less than a year still..so this gives me great comfort and hope. I love how she said..to "Keep God as the focus, not the Estranged kid"..so good, I needed a reminder how God has worked things out for others in the past..He can do it for my family too. This gives me a lot of hope for the future!! :}
• Reply #8 08/02/12  4:26pm
  
  Isingsoprano
  Thanks for the bump, GueslMom. I so needed to hear this today.
  
  My reconciliation with ED hit the skids and no progress has been made. Since then I've been in a very deep depression.
  
  Our next counseling session is scheduled for Aug. 17th. I won't be attending but DH will as he's watched ED attack and spew venom at me. He will be telling her, once and only once, now is the time to make a choice. Either you want to be a part of this family or you don't. No more attacks, belittling or re-writing history and no more counseling on Mom & Dad's dime.
  
  We know she's been in conversations with ES so we may never see any of them again but the anger and bitterness will stop. It is time for my ADULT CHILDREN to grow up, forgive and move forward.
  
  I don't know what the future holds, but I know who holds my future and I'm clinging to that.
  
  Prayers are requested and appreciated.
• Reply #9 08/03/12  1:09am
  
  MariaStevie
  Thank you for this encouragement and sharing this answer to prayer. You are right that God should be our focus HE can do what we can't. Please do keep sharing and encouraging us and keep us and our prodigals in your prayers.
• Reply #10 08/03/12  1:49am
  
  Anngrenade
  Thank you for bumping this. It's so easy to lose hope sometimes. I'm glad her mother got to see her family reunited. I see the toll this is taking on my mom and I it just kills me.

Estrangement makes it difficult to talk about with family, friends, neighbors and church members. Christians are NOT immune to broken families. Talk about your experiences with those who know how you feel and get positive support through your Christian faith...."In these last days difficult times will come, for men will be lovers of self...disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy, unloving...." (2 Tim 3:2) "O God and Heavenly Father, Grant to us the serenity of mind to accept